Wedding Planning: Four Things Your Wedding Planner Does Not Want You to Know

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“Weddings are not about spending the least amount of money or the most amount of money; they are about spending good money on the elements that are most important to you and your partner.”-Kristi Richardson

Wedding planning is, no doubt, a process littered with tricky situations and peppered with crucial decision-making scenarios. Indeed, the logistics are never quite straightforward nor are they always the same. To be successful in this endeavor, many brides-to-be would elect to seek professional help in the form of wedding planners. Wedding planners, for their part, have a particular expertise and flair in pulling weddings together. In this regard, they can be considered somewhat of a pro in planning weddings and are incredibly helpful in planning out the nitty-gritty details of a wedding. As a result, the bride can breathe and relax on her big day and would not be more stressed and anxious than she already is.

Choosing a talented and skillful wedding planner is not easy, and it is best to approach this attempt with your eyes wide open. While some wedding planners opt to be as transparent as they can be with their clients, there are less scrupulous planners who would rather keep essential details from you. In any case, here are some things that your wedding planner would not want you to know to determine whether what they kept from you is for your own good or for their bank book.

1.) Something will go wrong

With so many elements and aspects involved in a wedding, it is virtually impossible to pull it off flawlessly. In this regard, it would be inevitable that something would not go according to plan—no matter how meticulously you have planned their entire thing and regardless of how adept your planner might be. However, not all snags are major, and you can hope that it would be something insignificant such as the groom’s tie or something negligible. Similarly, you should also put into mind that there are no perfect weddings, just beautiful ones.

2.) Some of the vendors are probably her chums

Established wedding planners would already have a list of vendors they prefer to work with. If you wish to work with other vendors, it is best to stipulate this before you sign any contract. By choosing your own vendors, you can often get a better deal and quality—you would just need to do a little research and price comparison first. Seasoned and established planners would refer esteemed vendors—after all, a planner’s reputation would also be on the line. However, some planners might refer less qualified vendors who are still trying to build their reputations in the industry. With this in mind, it is best to consider a wedding planner who encourages you to keep your options open.

3.) They might not be as qualified as you think

Majority of wedding planners are already experienced in the field and have already developed an expertise in handling weddings. However, there are also handfuls few who are still trying to break ground in the industry. With this in consideration, how do you determine which one is which? After all, becoming a wedding planner does not require a license nor are any permits necessary. In this regard, it is best for brides to check with multiple references and review their past work samples. After all, some unsavory wedding planners are known for inflating their qualifications just to be hired.

4.) You can probably do it on your own

Some brides already possess the talent and flair for planning a wedding. In fact, it might be a second calling of all sorts and may even be considered as an avenue for showing off your budgeting skills and flawless taste. However, with stress and anxiety on top of the planning process, a bride may want to take a breather and let a wedding planner handle it all. But if you think you can pull it off on your own, you can save some cash and have a wedding that truly reflects who you and your husband are as a couple.

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Wedding Daze: Motivational Quotes to Keep You Going During Your Big Day

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“The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It is a choice you make—not just on your wedding day, but over and over again—and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife. –Barbara De Angelis

Without a doubt, planning a wedding can be an incredibly exhausting experience. There are just so many aspects, and elements consider that more often than not, the logistics of holding a successful one would be blurred. In fact, you might feel the excitement building up months, weeks and even days to your wedding—only to be stifled by the amount of stress and anxiety you are going through. Not to fret, however, experiencing a reasonable amount of stress and anxiety is normal—recommended even, so long as you can keep a good handle on it. After all, your wedding day may be the most pivotal moment in your life, and in this regard, you and your spouse would be the center of attention for the entire duration of the day. Considering that most eyes will be on you on top of the pre-wedding stress you will inevitably encounter, it is understandable to feel a bit shy and uneasy.

To ensure you keep on going through your day, here are some of the best motivational wedding quotes as regards love, unions, and marriages. Read them before you make your way down the aisle to give you that much-needed confidence-boost.

1.) On uncertainty

“Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness, of hatred, of jealousy, and most easily of all, the gate of fear.”-Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr.

2.) On falling in love

“There is a big difference between falling in love with someone and getting married. Usually, after you get married, you fall in love with the person more.”-Dave Grohl

3.) On loving your spouse

“To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.”-Chinese Philosopher, Lao Tsu

4.) On commitment

“There is a higher form of happiness in commitment. I am counting on it.”-Claire Forlani

5.) On getting real with marriage

“In marriage, there are no manners to keep up and beneath the wildest accusations, no real criticism. Each is familiar with that ancient child in the other who may erupt again. We are not ridiculous to ourselves. We are ageless. That is the luxury of the wedding ring.”-Enid Bagnold

6.) On happiness after marriage

“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry”-Tom Mullen

7.) On finding the ultimate happiness in marriage

“To find someone who will love you for no reason and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.”-Robert Brault

8.) On possibilities

“Weddings are important because they celebrate life and possibility.”

9.) On being in love

“You know you are in love when you cannot fall asleep at night because the reality is finally better than your dreams.”-Dr. Seuss

10.) On getting real about love

“Love is a promise; love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.”-John Lennon

11.) On the effect of marriage

“Getting married for me, was the best thing I ever did. I was suddenly beset with an immense sense of release, that we have something more important than our separate selves, and that is the marriage. There is happiness that can come from working towards that.”-Nick Cave

12.) On who you should marry

“You do not marry someone you can live with—you marry the person who you cannot live without.”-Unknown

If ever you feel jittery and have qualms right before your wedding day, let these quotes serve as your beacons of enlightenment and allow them to give you that extra nudge of encouragement for your big day.

 

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Tying the Knot? Here are Five Ingenious Tips to Read Before Buying Your Wedding Gown

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“On her wedding day, a woman should be certain she has found a dress that makes her feel confident and above all else, beautiful.”-Carolina Herrera

On any wedding day, all eyes will be on the bride as she makes her graceful walk down the aisle. With this in mind, it is only appropriate that a bride-to-be should be most meticulous and particular about the type of gown she wears on her big day. After all, a wedding gown is not only a dress a bride wears on her wedding day and selecting one is more than just a fitting, it is a memory in the making. For most women, a wedding gown could be the single most important dress they would ever wear in their lives–one that transcends all other garments she has and would ever have. So, if you are ready to hit the bridal shop, here are some tips to keep in mind to ensure you choose the wedding gown that suits you best:

1.) Have a price in mind

We all have our ideal gowns in mind, but at times the gown we dreamed of walking down the aisle in can be out of our price range. If this is the case, do not waste your time browsing that rack or even entertain the thought of buying it outright. Remember, you are not only spending for your wedding gown on your big day but on other aspects as well. Keep in mind; a dress budget does not only entail the gown itself but the cost of alterations, taxes, veil, shoes, lingerie, and jewelry. So, keep a realistic price in mind and stick to that.

2.) Start Early

Look for a wedding gown or dress at least six to eight months prior to your wedding day. But if you tend to be indecisive or are a picky shopper then add a couple of months more to that. Take note: a custom gown takes longer to make than the ones you can find off the rack—especially when they are heavily embellished. So, choose while it is still early as if you put it off for too long, you would either end up with a limited selection or make a quick purchase you might regret later.

3.) Consider the Dress Code

If you are getting married in a church, there might be religious restrictions you have to follow on what kind of wedding gown or dress you can wear. Consider these attire guidelines and make sure that you adhere to them in selecting a gown. After all, you would not want too many alterations on your gown should it not be allowed or worse, be asked to cover up as you walk down the aisle.

4.) Know What You Like

Your wedding gown or dress should be a reflection of you and your preference. If you have no idea what you truly want in a gown, you can start by perusing wedding gowns on the web and find one whose style resonates your own. Similarly, you can also take cues from your venue, theme and season of the day you are getting married to narrow down your choices. Eliminate silhouettes and fabrics that would look out of place in a venue such as poufy and bulky gowns in beach affairs as an example.

5.) Bring Your Accessories

Before your wedding day, it would be ideal if you had a rough idea of how you are going to look like when you walk down the aisle. While saving the full impact as a surprise on the day itself is done by most brides, this does not mean you should dismiss trying on the gown with your accessories either. You may opt to wear the gown sans your full bridal makeup when you are still trying it on, but it would be a good idea to know how it would look with the rest of your bridal ensemble such as the veil, the shoes, and the appropriate undergarments.

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Weddings Sins That Will Make Your Lola Gasp

It’s 2017, and it seems we forgot our values and traditions of weddings. Millenials have embraced the liberated culture of the West and have forgotten local traditions that are unique to Filipino culture. Thus, you may be guilty of committing wedding sins even when you aren’t aware. 

Read on to find which of the forgotten traditions will save your Lola from the heartache even if you are getting married in Intramuros – Casa Manila style.

 

Placing The Groom’s Name Before the Bride in Invitations

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The bride and her parents’ name should be written first. They are the host and share a large portion of the expenses. 

Your Lola and titas will agree to this because they’ve been through it. They definitely understand the delegation of responsibilities. Therefore it is tradition to have hers before the groom’s and his parents’ name on the invitations.

Thank you letters should print the groom’s name and his family before the bride’s name to show their support and acceptance to the ceremony and its proceedings.

 

The Bride Coming Before the Groom

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Ladies come first, but this isn’t one of those times. It’s bad luck for the groom to arrive after the bride. This is a grave sin for both couples, so be wary on your big day. 

Coordinate with each party and find a way to communicate if your partner is on his or her way. Be mindful of the time during preparation. Oversee any hindrance that may come along the way, be it traffic jam, a car breaking down, weather changes, broken zipper, lost pair of shoe or worse, a lost wedding ring.

 

 

The Bride Wearing a Pearl Jewelry

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It’s not pearl but look at what happened to Ariel because of the necklace.

As much as possible, pearl fanatics are discouraged from donning their prized accessories. Pearls resemble teardrops, and it is said that wearing pearl accessories will bring you tears. Unfortunately, they aren’t tears of joy.

Avoid wearing a string of pearls or pearl earrings on your wedding day. Doing so will bring sorrow and tears to your married life. Spare yourself and your future family from despair by following the tradition. Don’t come running to abuela, we warned you.

Like all events, there’s proper etiquette for guests. This case, the proper decorum also stems from our culture and traditions. Read this in case you get invited to someone’s big day.

 

Giving Sharp Objects as Gifts

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Give appropriate gifts. Remember when she thought forks were used for combing hair?

It may be tempting to give a set of knives to your BFF chef getting hitched this weekend, but doing so will bring bad luck. 

Sharp objects like scissors and gardening tools are home essentials, but there are other home necessities like appliances, pieces of furniture and home décor that are better given as presents to the newlyweds. They will greatly appreciate the gesture even if it’s not in the registry.

Giving a set of knives is also creepy, don’t you think?

 

Dress Code

The bride should be the most beautiful woman on her day. The groom is the most handsome man in the room. Not you nor your date

A wedding is a formal event, so dress accordingly. Some weddings have a theme indicated on the invite. Hence, respect the couple’s wishes what attire should be worn.

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Avoid stealing the spotlight and earning an eyeful from the elders by wearing skimpy dresses. Opt for modest clothing options. Don’t wear revealing, skin-tight dresses or short-sleeved casual attire. Polish your black shoes and style your hair to look clean and presentable. The guests’ appearance reflects the bride’s or the groom’s personality and any undesirable traits will reflect negatively to the in-laws.

 

Party Pooping

A wedding is also a celebration – feast of life, love, and unity. Don’t be a spoil sport by refusing to partake in the games and festivities. You’ll be putting down the energy and the mood of the couple. The goal is to attract positive and boundless energy for them. Do not be the cause to negate them.

These are some of the customs and traditions that are not observed by couples during their matrimonial rites. Guests also have to look out for these practices and make sure they follow the practices when gracing the event with their presence. If you want a refresher on other practices that are a must, head on to Casa Manila Museum. It features the lifestyle of elite Filipinos, who were conscious of social etiquettes and graces. It’s great place be purified and instill the traditions in yourself. Lola will be so proud.

Weddings 101: Five Things Your Wedding Guests Don’t Care About

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“A gloomy guest fits not a wedding feast” –Friedrich Schiller
Wedding planning can be incredibly stressful—there are just a lot of things to take into consideration. A good wedding package in the Philippines, the wedding venue, the catering, the wedding decorations—these are just a fraction of what wedding planning truly is in its entirety. Another thing that would add to the list of what you have to consider is how receptive your guests will be to some aspects in your wedding. While this is an excellent mindset for couples who want to commemorate a joyous event with their guests’ best interests at heart, you would be surprised to find that there are a lot of things that guests do not really care about. Perhaps if you knew what these things were, you would not be as keen and meticulous in executing them well and devote more of your time to planning the other aspects of your wedding. Furthermore, if you worried less about this stuff, then you can take away a bit of what is stressing you out.

Here are just a few things your guests do not care about and you probably should not spend a lot of time fussing over:

  1. Wedding Invitations

In this digital age, more and more couples are opting to go paperless when it comes to their wedding invitations. Not only is it nature-friendly and green, but it is economic and practical as well and yet, a lot of couples have this staunch belief that their invitations should be an elaborate presentation of what their wedding guests can expect. While it might be a brief prelude and introduction of what your guests can expect, it barely makes an impression and would likely end up in the waste bin after your wedding.

  1. The Guest Book

Most guests cannot really be bothered to just jot down their names on a huge guest book just to confirm they have indeed attended your wedding. So, instead of having them sign something that is akin to a roll call once they are done, incorporate a little creativity on what would have been a dull book. Plaster your photo on a large piece of paper and have guests write their wedding wishes for you on it. You can then have it framed after the wedding and you and your spouse can have a grand time reading about what your guests wish for you.

  1. The Flowers

Flowers are an important aspect and beautiful floral arrangements are always a welcome addition to your chosen wedding venue. Flowers are also a way of incorporating your personal style into a space. However, there is such a thing as floral arrangements being too extravagant. Those exorbitantly priced golden roses might look stunning, but it is hardly practical and not one of your guests would probably look back on your wedding day and remember the ostentatious display of floral wreaths. Your guests will appreciate the floral arrangements you have chosen—regardless of how much you have spent for them.

  1. The Dress

While this is more for yourself than your guests, there is really no practical reason to blow your bridal budget on a fancy dress that you are going to wear just once and never again. You can look just as stunning in a more affordable gown provided you know how to carry yourself in it. After all, it is not always about the price of the gown but rather how you bring yourself confidently in it. So, even if your wedding gown is sans the designer label, your guests are still sure to think you are a beautiful bride.

  1. The Cake

Wedding cakes are excellent, but apart from using it for the cake-slicing portion of the program there is really not much use for it as most couples opt to serve a different cake to their guests. While towering and meticulously detailed wedding cakes make for a great addition to your wedding reception, your guests would not miss it. Instead, you can opt to have a cake that is within your budget and which tastes great as well—and one you can serve to your guests as well.

 

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Wedding Food 101: Foods Your Guests Secretly Hate

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“Food is our common ground, a universal experience” -James Beard

 

A funny and somewhat hackneyed adage as regards wedding food once said that the most dangerous food to eat is a wedding quote. However, from a couple’s standpoint, it is far more dangerous to serve wedding food to their guests which they would secretly hate but pretend to love anyhow. It is no question that it is your big day and the occasion is all about you and your husband-to-be tying the knot, but the wedding food is a pivotal aspect of a wedding. In fact, in some rare cases, it dictates the success or failure of a particular event.

Serve too little and your guests would go hungry, serve them too much and you are likely to foot an exorbitant bill but serving them something they do not like altogether would spell a disaster for everyone. Not only will you and your guests have to stomach down the food served, but your wedding will be known as one of those events whose food did not make much of an impression. With this in mind, it would be imperative for you to gloss over the catering services in Pasay and see the types of the menu they offer. Otherwise, it might be helpful if you knew which wedding food items do not score high in most wedding guests’ scorecards.

1.) Appetizers that are hard to eat

It is no question that most modern weddings would now incorporate gimmicky things into their wedding—even if that means having food that is rather quirky and a bit hard to eat. Your guests are already having a hard time mingling with the other guests during the cocktail hour, do no make it even harder for them by giving them appetizers that are incredibly hard to eat and would likely cause them to make a mess. Have straightforward nibbles during cocktail hour—one which your guests can eat with one hand and balance a drink in their other hand.

2.) Weird signature cocktails

More often than not, these cocktails were engineered specifically for your wedding and are given monikers that would combine yours and your spouse’s or something cute like “Something Blue”. However, while the sentiment may be romantic (though a tad bit cheesy) to you, more often than not these concoctions do not taste as great as their name suggests. If they are too sickeningly sweet or are bland and watery, your guests would much rather have beer and wine than something that stimulates their gag reflex.

3.) Rubbery Chicken

Serving chicken at your wedding is a hit or miss thing. More often than not, it is the mode of preparation that contributes to how the dish will be received. However, considering that chicken is prepared hours before it is going to be served to your guests, that tender and juicy chicken your guests should have tasted will have been transformed into a piece of chewy rubber. And as unfortunate as it sounds, no one finds dried-out chicken marsala and cordon bleu appetizing to eat at all.

4.) Vegetable Bundles

While healthy options are always welcome, limp and soggy vegetables are not. Sure, the presentation looks superb as most of these vegetables are wrapped like little presents, but they would hardly add anything to the meal. Apart from the tasteless option, it would only make it obvious that you had obviously seriously overlooked the sides department. If you want a much more satisfactory option, buttery mashed potatoes, ravioli and pasta are great choices.

5.) Gluten-Free Everything

Even if you and your groom are on a special diet, make your big day your biggest cheat day. After all, just because you are on a restrictive diet, it does not mean that you should subject your wedding guests to the same limitations as well. While serving vegetarian, vegan and gluten-free dishes are perfectly acceptable, overhauling the entire menu to make it all vegetarian, vegan or gluten-free is another story. Let your guests enjoy their meal and at least give them options that they are likely to find acceptable.

 

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Four Definitive (But Annoying) Signs You Are at A Filipino Wedding

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In the Philippines, a wedding would probably mark the biggest occasion of an individual’s life. They are traditionally big and festive events where a large group of people comes together—from the family to the relatives, friends down to the neighbors. Apart from being a grand and festive, Filipino weddings are predominantly influenced by religion—so much so that it is traditionally celebrated inside big churches situated all over the country. However, with the advent of modern weddings, a lot of wedding traditions have become lost as more and more weddings get wrapped up with the commercial or monetary value of the planning involved.

It is rather unfortunate that Filipino weddings are losing some of the aspects that made it distinctly Filipino—including some of the customs and traditions that made it one, however, there are still modern unions that do practice it today. While traditions such as setting a pair of doves free or pinning some bills on the bride’s dress in exchange for a dance have gone stale, there are a few practices that are still evident in almost every Filipino wedding you attend. From the elaborate wedding planning that includes wedding packages in the Philippines to other quirky and unique practices, here are some practices that make a wedding truly Filipino:

1.) Filipino Time

Regardless of the occasion, Filipinos are notorious for arriving late–so much so, that the concept of Filipino time was coined. It roughly means that if an event is to start around 7 PM, Filipinos do not get ready to leave until it is 6:45 PM. In weddings, this can be particularly stressful; guests would typically take longer than usual as they have to do their hair and makeup and primp themselves up. If your wedding invitation states that wedding is to start around 3:00 PM, you can expect a majority of the guests to arrive at around 3:30 PM to 4 PM. But the worst guests are those who skip the wedding ceremony altogether and just head to the reception in time for the buffet. To make sure this does not happen, announce that the wedding starts an hour early in your invitation. This would not ensure that all of your guests would arrive on time, but at least a significant number of them will arrive just in time.

2.) Delinquents

Even if your invitation has indicated that the dress code is strictly formal, you will undoubtedly find someone in a more casual outfit of jeans and slippers. Apart from that, you may have requested that guests give you monetary gifts as you would be moving out of the country, yet it seems like some of your guests have missed the memo. So, how do you deal? Check on everyone at least a couple of weeks before the wedding. Remind them of your dress code and if they do not have any available, see if you can help them borrow from someone else.

3.) There are several gimmicks

A reception is a combination of many different events, and it is more than just a simple wedding dinner. Though the wedding ceremony finished hours ago, you are not expected to eat until a series of presentations and speeches are over. For this reason, many couples have opted to include a cocktail buffet table that would serve guests finger food as well as something to drink to stave off hunger before dinner is to begin. Before a wedding reception, come prepared and eat a heavy meal before attending the wedding ceremony. This would not only prevent you from being hungry during one of the many speeches in the reception, but it would also help you avoid from hoarding food in the cocktail buffet table.

4.) Girls disappearing during the bouquet toss part of the program

In almost every Filipino wedding, women would readily make an excuse to go to the bathroom just in time for the bouquet toss segment of the program. It seems like women do not want to have the limelight on them during the couple’s special day. A good workaround to this problem is to introduce a crafty way to ensure that the ladies would be more receptive to joining. Apart from receiving the bouquet, consider giving a monetary prize to the woman who catches the bouquet.

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