Maid of Honor (noun)
- A close friend or sister to the bride
- One who gives emotional support on the big day
- Helps the bride pick out the perfect dress
- Plans a hosts a perfect bachelorette party/ bridal shower
- An excellent listener and confidante
- A girl a bride needs by her side when she says “I do!”
Planning your big day is already hard by itself, but the process will be so much smoother and easier if you had the helping hand of your maid of honor. While all the things stated above would already detail the responsibilities of your maid of honor (and would definitely narrow down your list of prospective candidates), it would still prove to be a challenge to consider just one woman for this role. This is especially true if you are a bride who grew up with a lot of girlfriends. However, not to worry, know that although choosing a maid of honor is an intimidating prospect (imagine all those duties handed out to a single person!), your choice would ultimately mitigate the stress involved in the wedding planning—from helping you choose the most appropriate wedding package down to aiding you in the search for the perfect wedding gown.
Take note: Their duties are extensive, so selecting the right person would be paramount to the overall success of your event. In this regard, maid of honor selection would require some consideration. Here are some of the things to keep in mind in choosing your maid of honor:
A good listener
As a bride, you are going to have bouts of disappointments and frustrations when things do not live up to your expectations. This is inevitable and you are going to rant or at least need to vent out. With this in mind, you need to choose someone who can listen to you and pick up on what your wants and needs are. Apart from knowing how to listen to you, they would also pick up on the small details they would need in planning for your wedding shower and bachelorette party in such a way that it would be a true reflection of you (and not of what they think is cute).
Sense of humor
Wedding planning can be a long and stressful time insomuch that it might wear you down. A good laugh here and there will be very much welcome and appreciated. If you know someone who can keep you in stitches regardless of how stressful a situation might be, then she might be a good candidate for being your maid of honor. Apart from ensuring you would see the brighter side of things; they would be able to keep you at ease as well.
Choose a maid of honor that lives close to you—someone who can be there and would be available for major events such as dress fittings, cake tastings and venue selections. You might want your best friend to be your maid of honor, but if they live on another continent, you might need to make some concessions.
Choose a social butterfly
Choose a maid of honor that is comfortable in large group settings and would be able to approach people with a smile on her face. Go for someone who is not timid but is assertive as this will ensure for a smoother and better bridal shower and bachelorette party planning. Furthermore, your maid of honor will likely function as the head of your bridesmaid squad insomuch that the task of dress fitting schedules and the like would be delegated to her. In this regard, she would need to maintain a correspondence with them and should be able to communicate with them constantly. A maid of honor that is shy would likely have a hard time gathering people for an event and would not likely make the first move in planning for a bachelorette party.
One of the biggest and most pivotal aspects of any wedding planning is to find your vision. Your maid of honor should have a good sense of your style so that you would be amped up about the bigger picture and your wedding day itself. In this regard, you need a maid of honor that truly understands your tastes and would see your vision as well as add to it in ways that would complement your overall style.