Joyful Weddings: Five Indispensable Tips in Choosing a Maid of Honor

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Maid of Honor (noun)

  • A close friend or sister to the bride
  • One who gives emotional support on the big day
  • Helps the bride pick out the perfect dress
  • Plans a hosts a perfect bachelorette party/ bridal shower
  • An excellent listener and confidante
  • A girl a bride needs by her side when she says “I do!”

 

Planning your big day is already hard by itself, but the process will be so much smoother and easier if you had the helping hand of your maid of honor. While all the things stated above would already detail the responsibilities of your maid of honor (and would definitely narrow down your list of prospective candidates), it would still prove to be a challenge to consider just one woman for this role. This is especially true if you are a bride who grew up with a lot of girlfriends. However, not to worry, know that although choosing a maid of honor is an intimidating prospect (imagine all those duties handed out to a single person!), your choice would ultimately mitigate the stress involved in the wedding planning—from helping you choose the most appropriate wedding package down to aiding you in the search for the perfect wedding gown.

 

Take note: Their duties are extensive, so selecting the right person would be paramount to the overall success of your event. In this regard, maid of honor selection would require some consideration. Here are some of the things to keep in mind in choosing your maid of honor:

 

A good listener

As a bride, you are going to have bouts of disappointments and frustrations when things do not live up to your expectations. This is inevitable and you are going to rant or at least need to vent out. With this in mind, you need to choose someone who can listen to you and pick up on what your wants and needs are. Apart from knowing how to listen to you, they would also pick up on the small details they would need in planning for your wedding shower and bachelorette party in such a way that it would be a true reflection of you (and not of what they think is cute).

 

Sense of humor

Wedding planning can be a long and stressful time insomuch that it might wear you down. A good laugh here and there will be very much welcome and appreciated. If you know someone who can keep you in stitches regardless of how stressful a situation might be, then she might be a good candidate for being your maid of honor. Apart from ensuring you would see the brighter side of things; they would be able to keep you at ease as well.

 

Proximity

Choose a maid of honor that lives close to you—someone who can be there and would be available for major events such as dress fittings, cake tastings and venue selections. You might want your best friend to be your maid of honor, but if they live on another continent, you might need to make some concessions.

 

Choose a social butterfly

Choose a maid of honor that is comfortable in large group settings and would be able to approach people with a smile on her face. Go for someone who is not timid but is assertive as this will ensure for a smoother and better bridal shower and bachelorette party planning. Furthermore, your maid of honor will likely function as the head of your bridesmaid squad insomuch that the task of dress fitting schedules and the like would be delegated to her. In this regard, she would need to maintain a correspondence with them and should be able to communicate with them constantly. A maid of honor that is shy would likely have a hard time gathering people for an event and would not likely make the first move in planning for a bachelorette party.

 

Vision

One of the biggest and most pivotal aspects of any wedding planning is to find your vision. Your maid of honor should have a good sense of your style so that you would be amped up about the bigger picture and your wedding day itself. In this regard, you need a maid of honor that truly understands your tastes and would see your vision as well as add to it in ways that would complement your overall style.

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Stress-free Weddings: Four Ways to Deal with a Difficult Bridesmaid

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Brides.maid

Noun

  • A woman who is like a sister, a friend in every way, and a special person that is asked to share in the bride’s big day.
  • A special person asked to share in the bride’s big day

 

In an ideal scenario, your bridesmaids should be the all-girl ensemble that would help you prepare for your wedding in whatever aspect possible. Unfortunately, you cannot count on everyone to have the same positive attitude as you do. Much like any other wedding, there is, you will inevitably have a handful of difficult bridesmaids in your entourage. They could either be show stealers or perpetual gripers that would always seem to get on your very last nerve. Oftentimes, they can put a pall on what would have been an exciting time and very often, they can disappoint you with their bad attitudes or just their rudeness in general. In extreme cases, when your bridesmaid and you fail to see eye to eye, you might even run the risk of losing their friendship forever. However, there is a myriad of ways to avoid creating a maid-zilla. Although you cannot leverage your bridesmaids’ behaviors, doing these strategies would ensure that they would be easier to deal with and would keep them happy.

So, before you send out that invitation to your bridesmaid and have them grace your wedding venue at the Glass Garden or elsewhere, be sure to keep these techniques in mind:

 

Do not overwhelm your bridesmaids with costs

While you can reasonably expect your bridesmaids to support you on your big day, you cannot expect them to be as receptive to costs. Sure, they can be happy and be excited for you but if they have to continuously spend for every little thing you ask of them, you are creating an avenue for them to resent you. Remember, at the end of the day, it is still your wedding and while it is considered an honor for most individuals to be bridesmaids, they do not exactly want to shoulder some costs—particularly if they are operating in a tight budget. Ideally, the bride should be able to shoulder a bridesmaid’s hair and makeup, dress and the shoes (if you wish them to match).

 

Be reasonable about your wedding-related requirements

One way of keeping bad attitudes in check is to be realistic about what you expect your bridesmaids to do for you. In this regard, you should be frank and candid to them as to how much time you wish they would devote to you before your actual wedding day. Do not be overly demanding of their time. Remember, while you may be too wrapped up about your wedding, your bridesmaids still have a life outside of it and have other priorities to run. A reasonable requirement for your bridesmaids is to ask them to attend the dress fitting, your bridal shower, rehearsal dinner and a couple of night’s stay at a hotel. If there are other favors you wish to ask of them such as planning duties and the like, feel free to ask them but ensure that your wedding-related tasks would not eat up too much of their personal time.

 

Check if you are not being a bridezilla yourself

Before you start accusing any of your bridesmaids of being a diva, be sure to keep yourself in check as well. In most cases, brides can become very demanding of their entourage as they become more and more stressed about the wedding day. More often than not, brides would not even realize it until it is pointed out to them. So, before you start pointing fingers, stop and reassess how you have been acting lately. Have you been snippy? Do you have any demands that seem unreasonable? You may be all too wrapped up in your wedding, but remember, your bridesmaids may promise to support you, but they have never promised to become as emotionally invested (and involved) in the wedding as you are. Keep yourself in check and see if your behavior might be the cause why your bridesmaids are acting out.

 

Speak out in the face of diva-dom

If you have done everything that you can to ensure that your bridesmaids are happy by giving them an affordable, fun and exciting bridesmaid experience, then the problem might not be you, but them. If you think a particular bridesmaid of yours’ attitude is inexcusable, speak up. Address the situation right away, yourself as this is not a task that you can delegate to others. Do not ask your maid of honor to play mediator as this can only aggravate the problem. Let the errant bridesmaid know how you feel and let it come from you. The message conveyed will have more weight if it came from you. Furthermore, you should be mature enough to speak up for yourself and not have others speak for on your behalf.

 

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Five Bridal Shower Game Ideas for the Clueless Bridesmaids

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Bridal showers are incredibly fun and come with games that are hilarious to play. Usually, the bride’s bridesmaids, maid of honor and best friends are designated to plan this party for her and more often than not, these people would have a hard time breaking the ice by the time everyone is settled in at the party.

Sure, you may have prepared all of the party packages essential to the party such as the food and wine, but all these would be for naught if you cannot get your guests to talk to each other. This is precisely why shower games are useful—to help you break the ice. Below is a list of suggested games that you can take advantage of on the next planned bridal shower. Some of them are a bit clichéd, but can be rest assured that these games are not only fun and interesting to play but classy as well.

1.) Bridal Shower Bingo

The mechanics are fairly simple in this game as it is similar to your traditional bingo except that the pieces are wedding themed. To prepare for this game, you need to create bingo cards but instead of writing the word BINGO, write the word BRIDE along the top margin. Instead of having numbers below it, list facts relevant to the bride-to-be inside each square. To play it, all you would simply have to follow traditional bingo rules. The first guest to mark off a line or black out their card wins a prize.

2.) Recipe for Love

Prepare a set of wooden spoons and pass out one to each of the guests. Have them write their words of wisdom for the bride or any advice for her married life soon, but do not ask them to sign it. Collect all of the spoons and have the bride read them aloud; this is the fun part as there are bound to be some unorthodox and hilarious pieces of advice among the bunch. Ask the bride to choose her favorite and whoever issued that advice gets a prize.

3.) Purse Raid

Something similar to a scavenger hunt using each of the guests’ purses or bags. To prepare, before the party begins, create a list of some customary and standard items one may have in their purse such as phones, credit cards keys and work your way up to more random or risqué objects (an erotic novel, dog treats, etc.). The host will then call out the items as listed and the first guest who can pull that object from their purse wins a small prize.

4.) Pass the Love Story

In this game, each of the guests can get a chance to have their own version or exaggerate the story of how the couple met and fell in love. This game is easy to play as all it would require is a pen and paper. The game starts with the host writing a line at the top of the piece of paper about how the couple met such as “Diana and Declan met at a coffee shop”. The host would then proceed to pass this piece of paper to the next player who would write another line to follow that one. Once done, the player would only need to fold the paper so that only their line would be visible to the next player. After everyone is done, the bride-to-be should have the honor of reading out loud the masterpiece her guests have created in her honor.

5.) Two Truths and Lie

This game is fairly straightforward as all of your guests would only need to prepare three statements, two of them true while one is not. Let each guest introduce herself and tell at least three experiences she had with the bride with one being a lie. The person who correctly picks out the lie gets a point. The guest with most points wins.

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