Wedding Daze: Motivational Quotes to Keep You Going During Your Big Day

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“The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It is a choice you make—not just on your wedding day, but over and over again—and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife. –Barbara De Angelis

Without a doubt, planning a wedding can be an incredibly exhausting experience. There are just so many aspects, and elements consider that more often than not, the logistics of holding a successful one would be blurred. In fact, you might feel the excitement building up months, weeks and even days to your wedding—only to be stifled by the amount of stress and anxiety you are going through. Not to fret, however, experiencing a reasonable amount of stress and anxiety is normal—recommended even, so long as you can keep a good handle on it. After all, your wedding day may be the most pivotal moment in your life, and in this regard, you and your spouse would be the center of attention for the entire duration of the day. Considering that most eyes will be on you on top of the pre-wedding stress you will inevitably encounter, it is understandable to feel a bit shy and uneasy.

To ensure you keep on going through your day, here are some of the best motivational wedding quotes as regards love, unions, and marriages. Read them before you make your way down the aisle to give you that much-needed confidence-boost.

1.) On uncertainty

“Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness, of hatred, of jealousy, and most easily of all, the gate of fear.”-Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr.

2.) On falling in love

“There is a big difference between falling in love with someone and getting married. Usually, after you get married, you fall in love with the person more.”-Dave Grohl

3.) On loving your spouse

“To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.”-Chinese Philosopher, Lao Tsu

4.) On commitment

“There is a higher form of happiness in commitment. I am counting on it.”-Claire Forlani

5.) On getting real with marriage

“In marriage, there are no manners to keep up and beneath the wildest accusations, no real criticism. Each is familiar with that ancient child in the other who may erupt again. We are not ridiculous to ourselves. We are ageless. That is the luxury of the wedding ring.”-Enid Bagnold

6.) On happiness after marriage

“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry”-Tom Mullen

7.) On finding the ultimate happiness in marriage

“To find someone who will love you for no reason and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.”-Robert Brault

8.) On possibilities

“Weddings are important because they celebrate life and possibility.”

9.) On being in love

“You know you are in love when you cannot fall asleep at night because the reality is finally better than your dreams.”-Dr. Seuss

10.) On getting real about love

“Love is a promise; love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.”-John Lennon

11.) On the effect of marriage

“Getting married for me, was the best thing I ever did. I was suddenly beset with an immense sense of release, that we have something more important than our separate selves, and that is the marriage. There is happiness that can come from working towards that.”-Nick Cave

12.) On who you should marry

“You do not marry someone you can live with—you marry the person who you cannot live without.”-Unknown

If ever you feel jittery and have qualms right before your wedding day, let these quotes serve as your beacons of enlightenment and allow them to give you that extra nudge of encouragement for your big day.

 

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Pre-Wedding Blues: Top Three Causes of Wedding Jitters

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No matter how in love or sure you are about your future spouse, weeks or months before your wedding day, you may experience a bout of pre-wedding jitters that would render you jittery, anxious and at times, a nervous wreck. Not to worry, this is simply the case of pre-wedding stress getting to you—perhaps from meticulously planning the wedding menu down to the the strategic seating arrangement of your guests. However, you need to sit down and contemplate about your proposal or your upcoming marriage if you are suddenly having doubts about your future partner—ones that would not go away after days of trying to relax. If you are having persistent qualms about your wedding, perhaps reviewing what the top three reasons for pre-wedding jitters would help you identify what is causing your anxiety.

1.) The wedding day

Sometimes, the wedding day itself would cause you incredible stress and anxiety. This is especially true for rather large weddings wherein every single one’s family, friend and relative are invited. Having all the people you care about in one room can cause you to worry especially if there are divorced parents, step-parents and even estranged family members involved, the wedding day can particularly be stressful. In other cases, it could be that being the spotlight is what is causing the stress. However, in any case, and in all instances, you should get support for your wedding day as this is essential. A counselor or a wedding planner would help you create a plan for dealing with difficult family members.

2.) Becoming a “wife” or “husband”

More often than not, the marriage of our parents would give us the first real insight of what a marriage is like and sometimes, their marriages would serve as the blueprint of yours. If your parents went through a particularly rocky relationship or if you came from a broken home or a home filled with anger, shame, neglect and violence, intimacy is something you would rarely see. If this is the case, we entertain the fear that we will turn out to be just like them no matter how irrational that may be/ Take note that you are not your parents so you do not exactly have to mirror your blueprint. Similarly, you can also choose not to repeat the same mistakes they have done. In any case, just because your parents did not have a happy marriage does not mean that yours is also doomed from the get-go.

3.) The plan after I-do

Remember that an essential thing before proposing to your significant other or even agreeing to become man and wife is to know what your plans are after the wedding. Some of these would involve significant questions that would determine you would do as a couple after your respective “I do’s”. These questions include if you want kids, where you should live, how much money you plan to make, how to budget, what kind of ambitions you would both have—and other questions of a similar tone. When you have talked about this with your partner, then well and good as you would at least know what your plans would be after the wedding and are least likely to stumble into a complication or come across a problem. However, if this is something you and your partner have barely discussed or never even talked about your problem then it would be understandable why you have wedding jitters that may even be particularly overwhelming.
Some couples think that these are the things they can work out after marriage and everything would fall into place right after.

However, a wedding is a major milestone in life and should you find that you and your partner are not on the same page as regards some aspects of marital life, you will end up having a lot of conflicts and arguments in the future. Before joining the nuptial club, consider having a one on one talk with your partner or find a couples counselor who would guide you both through discussions that would assist you create goals for yourselves and negotiate when your needs and desires differ.

 

 

 

Although it is normal to be wary about lasting decisions in life (such as choosing a life partner), the same cannot be said about persistent anxiety and worries about the state of your relationship and your marriage after you both have said I do. To know the root cause of you nuptial jitters, it would be wise to identify what is causing your stress to distinguish if what you are experiencing is a simple case of pre-wedding anxiety or something even more—and worth talking about with your fiance or fiancee.

 

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The Workout for Your Wedding Dress

 

 

Every bride-to-be wants to look perfect or, at least, her very best on her wedding day. And once you have found the wedding dress of your dreams, you would soon find out that you would have to bare some portions of your body and put them up on display—mostly your upper body. Unless you would want to come into your wedding day traipsing down the aisle in nothing more than a white potato sack as a makeshift dress, the dress you select will highlight and accentuate some areas in your body.

Now, if you have been diligently following a workout scheme or a diet regimen this should be a breeze for you and you can rest easy knowing that on your wedding day, you will be in tiptop and stellar form. However, the same cannot be said for those of us who cannot take the time off work just to work on our calves and tone our arms so some of us would have to devise a plan on how to look our best on the big day in such a short a time. Well, let me be the first to tell you that there are no miracle workouts and that these wedding dress workouts would take every ounce of your determination, commitment and endurance. But it would gladly pay off on your wedding day as you will look absolutely stunning in that wedding dress once you have worked on a solid corporal foundation for your body. Complement these workouts with a diet regime which you can later compensate for during the wedding day (you can never go wrong with the wedding caterer’s food) and you will see results in no time.

So, if your big day is coming up anytime soon, take a look at your wedding dress and which areas you would likely expose so that you would find the perfect workout to look glam, sexy and stellar on your wedding day.

FOR HALTER, STRAPLESS AND OPEN BACK DRESS

 

 

This type of dresses displays your upper back so you have to make sure that it looks toned and great. Cardio can pretty much tone your laterals, traps, and teres, rhomboids, and deltoid muscles. Here are some of the back-shaping workouts you can try are dumbbell workouts such as one-arm dumbbell rows, prone dumbbell rows on ball or dumbbell reverse flys while seated on a ball. Another workout you can try for shaping your back are resistance band workouts which roughly take you about fifteen minutes with a resistance band, this can be done even by novices. Exercises would include bent over rows with a band, reverse flys with a band and seated rows with a band.

GOWNS WITHOUT STRAPS

 

 

These are the gowns or dresses that show not only a generous amount of your back but your chest as well. They come without straps and are those styles that feature plunging or sweetheart necklines that would accentuate or highlight your chest area. For this type of wedding dress, you would need to define your chest with workouts that would seemingly push your chest out. Like the workout above, you can utilize dumbbells for this workout and have dumbbells and a stability ball at the ready. It can be easily achieved by beginners and would take you approximately twenty minutes. The workout would include dumbbell chest press, dumbbell flys, and dumbbell chest press on the stability ball.

FORM-FITTED, SHEATH, COLUMN, HOURGLASS, MERMAID AND TRUMPET STYLE DRESSES

 

 

These are the types of dresses that cling to the body and would emphasize your entire figure. As this will likely accentuate and highlight your hourglass shape, this type of dress will draw attention to the butt, thighs, and belly. Cardio, along with body shaping exercise will tone those abs, obliques, quads, glutes, hamstrings and hip abductor muscles. Exercise would include ball exercises that would require a stability ball and would approximately take you twenty minutes to accomplish. Exercises would include wall squats with a ball, hamstring flexions with a ball, pendulum with a ball and lying hamstring curls with a ball.

A-LINE AND SLEEVELESS GOWNS

 

 

These dresses would highlight toned arms and a tight core. For this type of dresses, strong and sleek upper body Pilates Workout would work best. This circuit workout uses dumbbells and a resistance band to mimic Pilates Reformer-style moves that would effectively tone your arms and tighten your core.

The Wedding Dress Diet, Anyone?

The wedding rings, the wedding cake, the wedding caterer and so on. What else? The nutritionist, dietitian and personal trainer? We get it. Of course, to-be-weds want to look good on their special day – both brides- and grooms-to-be. However, what these engaged couples don’t realize is getting in shape requires hard work, discipline, dedication and time. It’s not an overnight thing especially for the brides-to-be who erroneously assume that they can shed off 20 pounds in just two weeks.

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Well, it might be possible with employing ‘drastic measures.’ But, that’s a very dangerous route to losing weight. Here are some do’s and don’ts in losing weight.

Say I Do to:

1) Natural weight loss

Losing weight must be a natural process. Never resort to taking diet pills and drinking diet tea or coffee as they typically contain laxative just to speed up the process. Surely, you will gain the poundage you shed off as fast as a week or two after the wedding more so if you are going on a honeymoon trip. This is known as yo-yo dieting or, more medically, the honeymoon holdover effect.

2) A lifestyle change

Getting hitched is one of the major lifestyle changes that you’d both subject yourselves into, and so is losing weight. You plan for your wedding, so you should plan ahead, too, if you want to lose the unwanted poundage. For instance, six months before the wedding, join a health club, consult a nutritionist or hire a personal trainer.

3) Short-term successes

Be reasonable and realistic. A pound per week is achievable; 2o pounds 3 days before the wedding day is not. Along the way, you will experience short-term wins. Seeing progress can be your motivation to continue with your health plan.

4) Long-term wins

Weight loss goals must not stop at choosing your catering food and beverages. Instead, you need to set your mind to a lifetime of healthy living. Choose healthy habits and incorporate them in your daily lives.

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Say I Don’t to: 

1) Physical and mental stresses

Preparing for a wedding is stressful enough. If you are going to resort to fad diets, you will never acquire all the nutrition that your body and mind need in keeping up with the planning. You might get sick in the middle of the preparation that only results lagging behind the schedule. Nobody wants this more so when the schedule is too tight to let even the littlest slip ups to consume a day or two.

2) Procrastinating

More so for the brides, wearing a wedding dress wherein they can show off their gorgeous arms, shoulders, gams and backs. The more you procrastinate, the more you need to spend time in the gym. If you only have two months, you need to dedicate more time for workouts. So, do it now while you still have time. Do it together.

Other healthy tips

  • Eat smaller portions
  • Eat more fruits and vegetables (especially the in-season ones)
  • Eat leaner and lower-fat meat and dairies
  • Limit empty calories (high-sugar, high-fat, etc.)
  • Don’t drink calories; eat them
  • Cook quick and easy meals
  • Plan meals ahead, say, a month or week
  • Keep the pantry well-stocked
  • Don’t skip a meal
  • Exercise

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Heavier ever after or healthier ever after? It is your choice. Certainly, it is 100% okay to start a fitness program for your wedding day. However, it would be much better if you will carry on with losing weight and maintaining a healthy weight throughout your life together. A life of wedded bliss may sound more romantic if it means staying together for as long as both of you can. And that includes staying as healthy as you should be!

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