4 Signs You Shouldn’t Be in A Wedding

Other people enjoy weddings. They marvel at the magic of the wedding vows and the solemnity of the affair. The feminine touches of the decorations and the well-coordinated theme are something that people look forward to seeing.

Unfortunately, not all people have a romantic bone in their body. These are the people who secretly hate other people just because they exist. They are not exactly the life of the party. But they are going to the wedding because of their love for the couple.

If you find yourself connecting to five of these signs, then you definitely shouldn’t be at a wedding.

  1. You judge everyone’s clothes.

It’s human nature to judge and comment on other’s people attire and sense of fashion. But if you’re endlessly doing it to entertain and keep yourself from sleeping, then you shouldn’t be there in the first place. The long speeches absolutely bore you to death. The corny jokes also make you wish the ground would swallow you alive.

  1. You would rather spend the day at the mall.

There are so many things you would rather do than witness the “first” kiss of the couple. You prefer to walk around the mall at Vertis North. You feel happier spending your hard-earned cash shopping for new clothes than wearing a drabby suit or ugly wedding dress. Heck, you would prefer snuggling with your furry friend rather than giving air kisses to the people that aren’t even your friends.

  1. You aren’t a fan of people, dancing, and well-wishes.

Just thinking of the people you have to meet annoys you especially if it’s your job to greet and usher them to their seats. It doesn’t help when there are rude guests or people with an attitude are difficult to handle. Then, there’s the dancing you need to prepare. People will call you a party pooper when you’re the only person seated once the DJ starts playing the tunes.

Most of all, there are speeches and well-wishes. Mothers, bridesmaids and a bunch of highly-sensitive people start to cry during the wedding vows and the long speeches. People need to chill out. It’s justs words.

  1. You hate photo ops.

Besides the shots from the official photographer, there are groufies and selfies to take. Isn’t one photo enough? Your face is aching from all the smiling and laughing. Moreover, your feet are tired. Some of your muscles are aching from bending so the camera can get a better angle. Lastly, you need to put makeup or fix your hair so you won’t look out of place.

  1. You always go for seconds, or you go to a drive-thru to get your fill.

Attending a wedding means free food, but that doesn’t mean you can get a full tank. Since the couple has to budget and make sure everyone gets their fill, the meals are controlled. They can be plated for you, or some servers will place the food on your plate. Besides the small portions, the menu may be composed of food unfamiliar to you or aren’t your cup of tea. Hence, you end up ordering a fast food meal right after the party.

Even without these signs, you would rather let the occasion pass than sit and watch the spectacle. You would rather sit one out for the team than be in front of the action. But after all these things, you would still be around to support a family member, friend and loved one on their special day.

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Weddings Sins That Will Make Your Lola Gasp

It’s 2017, and it seems we forgot our values and traditions of weddings. Millenials have embraced the liberated culture of the West and have forgotten local traditions that are unique to Filipino culture. Thus, you may be guilty of committing wedding sins even when you aren’t aware. 

Read on to find which of the forgotten traditions will save your Lola from the heartache even if you are getting married in Intramuros – Casa Manila style.


Placing The Groom’s Name Before the Bride in Invitations

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The bride and her parents’ name should be written first. They are the host and share a large portion of the expenses. 

Your Lola and titas will agree to this because they’ve been through it. They definitely understand the delegation of responsibilities. Therefore it is tradition to have hers before the groom’s and his parents’ name on the invitations.

Thank you letters should print the groom’s name and his family before the bride’s name to show their support and acceptance to the ceremony and its proceedings.


The Bride Coming Before the Groom

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Ladies come first, but this isn’t one of those times. It’s bad luck for the groom to arrive after the bride. This is a grave sin for both couples, so be wary on your big day. 

Coordinate with each party and find a way to communicate if your partner is on his or her way. Be mindful of the time during preparation. Oversee any hindrance that may come along the way, be it traffic jam, a car breaking down, weather changes, broken zipper, lost pair of shoe or worse, a lost wedding ring.



The Bride Wearing a Pearl Jewelry

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It’s not pearl but look at what happened to Ariel because of the necklace.

As much as possible, pearl fanatics are discouraged from donning their prized accessories. Pearls resemble teardrops, and it is said that wearing pearl accessories will bring you tears. Unfortunately, they aren’t tears of joy.

Avoid wearing a string of pearls or pearl earrings on your wedding day. Doing so will bring sorrow and tears to your married life. Spare yourself and your future family from despair by following the tradition. Don’t come running to abuela, we warned you.

Like all events, there’s proper etiquette for guests. This case, the proper decorum also stems from our culture and traditions. Read this in case you get invited to someone’s big day.


Giving Sharp Objects as Gifts

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Give appropriate gifts. Remember when she thought forks were used for combing hair?

It may be tempting to give a set of knives to your BFF chef getting hitched this weekend, but doing so will bring bad luck. 

Sharp objects like scissors and gardening tools are home essentials, but there are other home necessities like appliances, pieces of furniture and home décor that are better given as presents to the newlyweds. They will greatly appreciate the gesture even if it’s not in the registry.

Giving a set of knives is also creepy, don’t you think?


Dress Code

The bride should be the most beautiful woman on her day. The groom is the most handsome man in the room. Not you nor your date

A wedding is a formal event, so dress accordingly. Some weddings have a theme indicated on the invite. Hence, respect the couple’s wishes what attire should be worn.

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Avoid stealing the spotlight and earning an eyeful from the elders by wearing skimpy dresses. Opt for modest clothing options. Don’t wear revealing, skin-tight dresses or short-sleeved casual attire. Polish your black shoes and style your hair to look clean and presentable. The guests’ appearance reflects the bride’s or the groom’s personality and any undesirable traits will reflect negatively to the in-laws.


Party Pooping

A wedding is also a celebration – feast of life, love, and unity. Don’t be a spoil sport by refusing to partake in the games and festivities. You’ll be putting down the energy and the mood of the couple. The goal is to attract positive and boundless energy for them. Do not be the cause to negate them.

These are some of the customs and traditions that are not observed by couples during their matrimonial rites. Guests also have to look out for these practices and make sure they follow the practices when gracing the event with their presence. If you want a refresher on other practices that are a must, head on to Casa Manila Museum. It features the lifestyle of elite Filipinos, who were conscious of social etiquettes and graces. It’s great place be purified and instill the traditions in yourself. Lola will be so proud.

Weddings 101: Five Things Your Wedding Guests Don’t Care About


“A gloomy guest fits not a wedding feast” –Friedrich Schiller
Wedding planning can be incredibly stressful—there are just a lot of things to take into consideration. A good wedding package in the Philippines, the wedding venue, the catering, the wedding decorations—these are just a fraction of what wedding planning truly is in its entirety. Another thing that would add to the list of what you have to consider is how receptive your guests will be to some aspects in your wedding. While this is an excellent mindset for couples who want to commemorate a joyous event with their guests’ best interests at heart, you would be surprised to find that there are a lot of things that guests do not really care about. Perhaps if you knew what these things were, you would not be as keen and meticulous in executing them well and devote more of your time to planning the other aspects of your wedding. Furthermore, if you worried less about this stuff, then you can take away a bit of what is stressing you out.

Here are just a few things your guests do not care about and you probably should not spend a lot of time fussing over:

  1. Wedding Invitations

In this digital age, more and more couples are opting to go paperless when it comes to their wedding invitations. Not only is it nature-friendly and green, but it is economic and practical as well and yet, a lot of couples have this staunch belief that their invitations should be an elaborate presentation of what their wedding guests can expect. While it might be a brief prelude and introduction of what your guests can expect, it barely makes an impression and would likely end up in the waste bin after your wedding.

  1. The Guest Book

Most guests cannot really be bothered to just jot down their names on a huge guest book just to confirm they have indeed attended your wedding. So, instead of having them sign something that is akin to a roll call once they are done, incorporate a little creativity on what would have been a dull book. Plaster your photo on a large piece of paper and have guests write their wedding wishes for you on it. You can then have it framed after the wedding and you and your spouse can have a grand time reading about what your guests wish for you.

  1. The Flowers

Flowers are an important aspect and beautiful floral arrangements are always a welcome addition to your chosen wedding venue. Flowers are also a way of incorporating your personal style into a space. However, there is such a thing as floral arrangements being too extravagant. Those exorbitantly priced golden roses might look stunning, but it is hardly practical and not one of your guests would probably look back on your wedding day and remember the ostentatious display of floral wreaths. Your guests will appreciate the floral arrangements you have chosen—regardless of how much you have spent for them.

  1. The Dress

While this is more for yourself than your guests, there is really no practical reason to blow your bridal budget on a fancy dress that you are going to wear just once and never again. You can look just as stunning in a more affordable gown provided you know how to carry yourself in it. After all, it is not always about the price of the gown but rather how you bring yourself confidently in it. So, even if your wedding gown is sans the designer label, your guests are still sure to think you are a beautiful bride.

  1. The Cake

Wedding cakes are excellent, but apart from using it for the cake-slicing portion of the program there is really not much use for it as most couples opt to serve a different cake to their guests. While towering and meticulously detailed wedding cakes make for a great addition to your wedding reception, your guests would not miss it. Instead, you can opt to have a cake that is within your budget and which tastes great as well—and one you can serve to your guests as well.


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Wedding Gifts Any Couple Would Want!


“Our celebration lasted for a day, but your gift will be a lifelong reminder of how it was graced by lovely friends like you” –Wedding Gift Thank You Card

More often than not, wedding guests do not to go through too much of a hassle and make a fuss over finding an affianced couple the appropriate gift—thanks to the ingenuity and magic of gift registries. If you glossed over their list, all you would need to do is find a gift that is within your budget and gift that to the couple. However, what the couple would enlist in that registry is not always affordable and if you are a tad bit too late, you may find that most of what they asked for have already been bought by the other guests who are attending as well. You might also want to give the couple a gift that is uniquely creative which would not hurt your budget one bit.

Remember, your presence itself is already a great gift to the couple so there is no need to trouble yourself so much as regards that. But, should you want a few gifting ideas that would not necessarily come from the gift registry or gift them something totally unexpected read on below for a few ideas. So that the moment you enter the wedding venue in Makati or wherever that may be, you can be rest assured you have a great gift the couple would enjoy.



Who does not enjoy a personal handmade gift with a touch of sentimentality? I am sure quite everyone would enjoy it—including the newlywed couple you are about to gift it to. Incorporating your own handicraft and truly making the gift personal would show the newlywed couple that you took the extra mile and effort just to make sure they got a gift they would love and for sure, they would appreciate the gesture. One idea is to give them a lamp that is decorated with the pictures they have as a couple or perhaps a clock which has their photographs etched on it. The possibilities are endless and you can certainly let your creative shine through with this idea.



Months, weeks and days prior to the wedding day would be pretty hectic and stressful for the couple that after that, all they want to do is unwind and relax. Even during the honeymoon, they may have a few more errands to tie up before they can finally just unwind. Of course, considering this to be the case, it would be appropriate to give them something that would allow them to indulge—at any time they please. A spa voucher which they could redeem anytime they please would be greatly welcomed.



Apart from the honeymoon itself which is customary for any newlywed couple, any newlyweds would enjoy another holiday as this means they would have another time to be alone together. For any couple—newlywed or not, this would be a bonus. Additionally, this is an excellent way for you and your friends to give a joint gift and pool your resources together. Give the couple a holiday retreat where they can enjoy making more memories together and they will surely appreciate the gesture.

4.) Anything you want


Your presence is already a gift enough for them and newlyweds would surely appreciate and be grateful for any gift that you have brought them. So, if you are bristling over the fact that gifting them shopping coupons, cash or vouchers with the thoughts of it being tacky then you would be relieved to know that these are very welcome gifts. It gives the newlywed couple and opportunity to choose for themselves a gift that they can truly use. Additionally, the extra cash they would receive from the wedding would be a welcome source of finances in their life together.

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Honeymoon Alternatives that Will Not Hurt Your Pocket!


Honeymoons are awesome, they provide an easy avenue for newly wedded couples to bond with each other in a remote romantic place and connect after the wedding affair itself. More often than not, some couples look forward to this more than the wedding itself. Just imagine that after long stretches of weeks planning the perfect wedding, streamlining a multitude of choices from the catering menu down to the entourage’s outfits, mishaps here and there, sauntering down the aisle of your chosen wedding venue, you can finally have a week or two to relax with your spouse and be a Mrs. for the first time.

Unfortunately, some couples have exhausted their financial resources during the wedding preparations that the budget allocated for their honeymoon is a bit meager or is altogether virtually nonexistent. Well, lucky for you that there are a lot more ways to spend your honeymoon and they do not require you to break the bank. Alternatively, you and your spouse can save up for a real honeymoon and spend days following your wedding day just playing house together and connecting with each other in your new home (This is also an excellent time to go house shopping or furniture shopping). However, for those of you who would want to spend the following days after your wedding day in an affordable marital bliss, here are several alternatives to expensive honeymoon trips.


Here is a unique way to spend time with your new spouse and do your own part in giving back to the community. Volunteer Honeymoon is a unique way to spend time with your spouse by clearing trails at a local beach or helping out at a local orphanage. It would give you a memorable travel experience–one that would strengthen your bond with your spouse and certainly make an impact on you. This is not only a great honeymoon idea but it is also a fantastic and remarkable way to start you newly wedded life together.


Mini-moons are quickly becoming a trend among newlyweds as a popular honeymoon alternative. This is perfect for those newly wedded couples who are constrained to a budget or have budget limitations, timing constraints or little vacation time set aside. This would allow couples to experience an unforgettable destination for a few or so days (even if it is not exactly Greece or the Maldives). Typically, mini-moons are spent in a place within driving distance or a short flight. Regardless, though, you can still be assured of a great time together with your spouse.


This is perfect for the newly wedded couple who has a thirst for adventure and who would love to experience the great outdoors. Locally, there are a lot of camping spots you and your spouse can choose from and these types of trips are typically cheaper than an international cruise. Additionally, going on a camping trip would not only indulge the adventurer in you but as camping destinations all over the Philippines offer various packages that would include seeing some falls, visiting the beach and trekking, you and your spouse would get to experience more in this budget friendly honeymoon trip.


Another alternative way to spend your honeymoon while on a tight budget is to go on an eco-themed honeymoon. Explore the most diverse ecosystems surrounding your area or an area an hour flight away. This has become rather popular lately as it focuses on visiting natural or protected areas of a destination while minimizing overall impact. So, give this a try when you want an offbeat alternative way to celebrate your newly wedded life together.


Use this time to explore your city in a different light and together with your new spouse. Shop for things you may need at home, go to undiscovered locations, act like a tourist in your own city–the possibilities are endless. Going on a honeymoon trip does not mean you have to leave the confines of your own homes as you can still very much enjoy it where you are so long as you are creative about it. Spend your honeymoon within your city and you will learn to appreciate things about it that you have failed to notice before.

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Honeymoon 101: Do’s and Don’ts of Packing


At last, you are finally a Mrs.

You have traipsed down the aisle of San Agustin Church, said your respective I dos, uttered your vows for each other, kissed your groom and toasted to the rest of what your future wedded life may bring. And now, here comes the fun and relatively most awaited part, the honeymoon. Chances are, amidst all the last minute wedding preparations, hubbub and hustle and bustle, you may have compartmentalized arranging for the preparations for your honeymoon, but now that the wedding is behind you, it would be a good idea to know what to do—especially when it comes to packing.

Depending on how long you and your new hubby are spending your honeymoon holiday, your packing essentials can be a multitude of varied articles and items. The items you pack would also largely depend on what kind of honeymoon trip you both are going to, but regardless of these two factors, there are some cardinal rules you should be aware of when it comes to packing. To make sure your first trip as a couple goes smoothly, and to assure that you have adequately packed for it, here are a few do’s and don’ts you ought to know when you begin packing.



This is probably self-explanatory, but most couples would put off packing until after the wedding. This is not necessarily a bad thing if you have at least a couple of days or a week before you go on your honeymoon, but most couples would already be travelling to their honeymoon destination a day after their wedding. If this is the case, it is best if you packed a week prior your scheduled departure as this will prevent you from leaving anything that may be important. This will also effectively prevent stressing you out before your scheduled trip.



This is imperative for any time that you are traveling. There is a big chance that someone else is going to have a similar suitcase to yours, and if you do not adequately mark yours with something unique, you might just end up losing your honeymoon luggage before even arriving at your destination. Deter other travelers from mistaking your bag as theirs by marking the outside with something unique so that you would not lose them.



Your enthusiasm and excitement for your honeymoon trip may be boundless but that does not mean that you should over pack. Though it may be true to come well-prepared, there is no need to go overboard. Consider that big and heavy bags are a pain to travel with and are unnecessary more often than not. Travelling light would expedite your boarding process and would definitely make it easier for you and your spouse.



Passports, visas, ID’s and credit cards—make sure you have at least two copies of each. Bring one with you and leave the other behind so that should you ever lose anything essential to you such as your purse, wallet or have any of these stolen, you would still be well equipped with the information needed in order to get replacements.



Necessary toiletries such as toothpaste and deodorants come in travel-friendly sizes, and if they do not, then it is best if you buy these only when you have arrived at your destination. Make sure it does not take up too much space in your travel bag and have them easily accessible so that it will be a breeze to transport it around.



This is a bag that is filled with essential items you would need for day activities such as city walking tours, hiking treks, beach strolling, etc. A backpack would conveniently store hefty items such as chargers, cameras and water bottles that would be easily accessible should you have this with you. Additionally, it is wise to keep important documents such as confirmations, reservations, and itineraries with you at all times.



Disconnect from Facebook and Twitter for the entire duration of your honeymoon and spend this time to be closer to each other. The photos and witty messages you would want to upload can wait until the last day or when you get back. This is your honeymoon, immerse yourself in the moment and pay attention to your spouse.

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To-Do List of the Newlyweds

Gone are those days when you worry too much about wedding suppliers including florist, photographers, videographers and of course, Philippines catering provider. Now that both of you are back from your well-deserved honeymoon, it is time to get real. And start working on the post-wedding tasks that’s been waiting to be accomplished. These are the tasks that you should never put off.

1) Cleaning and storing the wedding gown

Wedding gowns must be dry-cleaned within six months after using it. Of course, the sooner is unquestionably the better. Commission a cleaning service that specializes in dry-cleaning gowns and dresses since they use the right detergents and other solutions. Make sure that the service is using acid-free tissues, for instance. Put it inside a box and store it in a cool and dry place. Make sure that moist will not penetrate the box.


2) Sending thank-you cards

Thank-you cards should be mailed within two months after the wedding day. If you are going to send a lot, might as well divide the task with your hubby. For instance, let him do his side of the family and friends while you do yours. Print out addresses and return addresses on the computers, so that you can save more time handwriting these stuffs. Print them on sticker papers. Send all them once done.

3) Tackling registry returns

After finishing all the presents, what do you get? Three oven toasters, four flat irons, five rice cookers, etc. Wedding gifts must be returned within two months after marrying. Most stores are lenient in taking back gifts, but return policies largely vary including items that they can only take back.


4) Finalizing the wedding album

Photographers and videographers give a maximum of six months for the newlyweds to select photos that will make it to the album and final edited DVD. Anything beyond that period will mean extra charges. Wouldn’t it be lovely to flip through the wedding album or pop in the DVD on your first anniversary? Just my two cents.

5) Changing your name (and address if needs be)

Sort of, officially! Ideally, changing ID names must be accomplished within 90 days after getting married. Change your IDs (including Social Security System (SSS), TIN, Pag-IBIG, PhilHealth, etc.), licenses and passport as well as other documents. Change beneficiaries as well especially on your insurances. Your company’s HR department can do this for you, but you always have the choice to get through the process so you’d know how it feels to sign your new name again and again.


6) Distributing your new address

Sending a mass email is OK in letting your relatives and friends know of your new address. Alternatively, you can slip in a tiny moving announcement note on the thank-you cards. With this, you need not spend additional money for stamps. Bookstores sell pre-made moving announcements, or you can make your own using one of the printable templates online.

7) Figuring out your finances

Money talks are dreaded not just by the newlyweds, but also by those who are married for more than ten years or so. Hopefully, you had already talked about that even before you walked down the aisle. If not, you might as well bring up the topic with your hubby. What both of you prefer – merging single bank accounts into one account or creating a new bank account for you as a couple while maintaining your own respective accounts? Whichever you choose, this means several trips to the bank to accomplish the paperwork and to have the new ATM cards (and checks) made.

combining-finances-newlywedsEvidently, post-honeymoon is, in fact, the start of real work as a married man and woman. Whatever tasks you chose to accomplish first, remember that it is the culmination of your lives together as a married couple.

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