Wedding Cake Cutting – The Do’s and Don’ts


Where do you want to get married? Our Lady of Remedies, Binondo Church or Nuestra Señora de Gracia? Well, wherever you may want to marry, there is one cannot-be-missed element of any Filipino wedding – the wedding cake! Ever-superstitious that we are, even the simple act of cake cutting connotes future consequences.

In the Philippines, it is more of a tradition than just being the culmination of the wedding program. The bride and groom should cut the first piece together. It symbolizes the first task that the couple had to do together. After the actual cake cutting, the newlyweds need to feed each other from the first slice of the cake. The act symbolizes their commitment to share and provide for one another. This also symbolizes the love, respect and honor they have for each other.

While it may be heavy with symbolism, here are some reminders to keep the cake cutting a piece of cake (pun intended).


1) Whether you are having a morning, afternoon or evening wedding, you must cut the cake before the waitpersons serve the dessert. That’s right after the meal. This is particularly true if the wedding cake will serve as the dessert.

2) Inform the master(s) of the ceremony to announce the cake cutting clearly. This is a momentous event and everyone would want to witness it and of course, take photos.

3) Use a cake serving set. Most caterers in the Philippines provide the set as an inclusion to the package.

4) Cut the cake together. The right hand of the groom must gently hold the right hand of the bride. Slice the cake layer through its bottom. Typically, the bottom tier of the cake should be sliced.

5) Pause for a while. So that, everyone can take pictures of the ceremonial first cut. Be gracious enough to accommodate the simple requests of your guests.

6) The groom should feed the bride first.

7) Offer cake slices to your in-laws. The groom must serve the bride’s parents with the cake while the bride should serve the groom’s parents.

8) Cut the cake and serve it to your guests.

For practical reasons,

  • Taste test the wedding cake before placing an order.
  • Place an order early.
  • Make it edible.
  • Coordinate it with the wedding theme and motif.
  • Cut the cake where everyone can see it.
  • Schedule the cake cutting.


1) Cut the top layer of the cake. Top tiers are not suitable for the ceremonial first cut because it makes the entire cake unstable. Also, you need to save and freeze the top layer and eat it on your first anniversary.

2) Use your hand or fingers in feeding one another. The serving set comes with a dessert fork which is more appropriate to use.

3) Smash the cake to each other’s faces. Again, it is a tradition and mocking it will not make your parents happy. The cake cutting ceremony must be a respectable practice, so don’t ruin it.

For practical reasons, don’t

  • Choose an inedible cake. Cakes are not for display only; they’ll be eaten, too.
  • Overwhelm the cake with too many embellishments and add-ons.
  • Make the wedding cake yourself. Or, you’ll look too haggard on the wedding day itself.
  • Forget to make cake delivery arrangements. Never transport it by yourself; cake transportation requires specific techniques.
  • Forget the cake topper. Pick a topper that’s ‘so you.’
  • Forget the cake table. The cake must be well-presented to the guests.

Cake cutting is perhaps the most awaited part of a wedding. Above are some of the do’s and don’ts when cutting your wedding cake. This is one first-time that should also be the last-time. So, do it right!

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