Wedding Food 101: Foods Your Guests Secretly Hate

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“Food is our common ground, a universal experience” -James Beard

 

A funny and somewhat hackneyed adage as regards wedding food once said that the most dangerous food to eat is a wedding quote. However, from a couple’s standpoint, it is far more dangerous to serve wedding food to their guests which they would secretly hate but pretend to love anyhow. It is no question that it is your big day and the occasion is all about you and your husband-to-be tying the knot, but the wedding food is a pivotal aspect of a wedding. In fact, in some rare cases, it dictates the success or failure of a particular event.

Serve too little and your guests would go hungry, serve them too much and you are likely to foot an exorbitant bill but serving them something they do not like altogether would spell a disaster for everyone. Not only will you and your guests have to stomach down the food served, but your wedding will be known as one of those events whose food did not make much of an impression. With this in mind, it would be imperative for you to gloss over the catering services in Pasay and see the types of the menu they offer. Otherwise, it might be helpful if you knew which wedding food items do not score high in most wedding guests’ scorecards.

1.) Appetizers that are hard to eat

It is no question that most modern weddings would now incorporate gimmicky things into their wedding—even if that means having food that is rather quirky and a bit hard to eat. Your guests are already having a hard time mingling with the other guests during the cocktail hour, do no make it even harder for them by giving them appetizers that are incredibly hard to eat and would likely cause them to make a mess. Have straightforward nibbles during cocktail hour—one which your guests can eat with one hand and balance a drink in their other hand.

2.) Weird signature cocktails

More often than not, these cocktails were engineered specifically for your wedding and are given monikers that would combine yours and your spouse’s or something cute like “Something Blue”. However, while the sentiment may be romantic (though a tad bit cheesy) to you, more often than not these concoctions do not taste as great as their name suggests. If they are too sickeningly sweet or are bland and watery, your guests would much rather have beer and wine than something that stimulates their gag reflex.

3.) Rubbery Chicken

Serving chicken at your wedding is a hit or miss thing. More often than not, it is the mode of preparation that contributes to how the dish will be received. However, considering that chicken is prepared hours before it is going to be served to your guests, that tender and juicy chicken your guests should have tasted will have been transformed into a piece of chewy rubber. And as unfortunate as it sounds, no one finds dried-out chicken marsala and cordon bleu appetizing to eat at all.

4.) Vegetable Bundles

While healthy options are always welcome, limp and soggy vegetables are not. Sure, the presentation looks superb as most of these vegetables are wrapped like little presents, but they would hardly add anything to the meal. Apart from the tasteless option, it would only make it obvious that you had obviously seriously overlooked the sides department. If you want a much more satisfactory option, buttery mashed potatoes, ravioli and pasta are great choices.

5.) Gluten-Free Everything

Even if you and your groom are on a special diet, make your big day your biggest cheat day. After all, just because you are on a restrictive diet, it does not mean that you should subject your wedding guests to the same limitations as well. While serving vegetarian, vegan and gluten-free dishes are perfectly acceptable, overhauling the entire menu to make it all vegetarian, vegan or gluten-free is another story. Let your guests enjoy their meal and at least give them options that they are likely to find acceptable.

 

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Filipino Weddings: Five Things to Expect and Guest Conduct

Brenda Chu and Alvin Raagas

“Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness of sins.” -Lao Tzu

It is a known fact that weddings are big festive events, but in the Philippines, it is all the more festive and grand. Considering that the family is an integral part of the Filipino culture, family members, relatives and even friends from abroad would all take leave and come home to celebrate this momentous event in an individual’s life. As it is a rare time for everyone to be home at the same time, celebrations do not last just a day, but in some cases, it would last a week to a month depending on how long visitors from abroad intend to stay.

Apart from looking for an appropriate wedding package in the Philippines, a lot of preparation goes into a Filipino wedding. While there are some more elaborate weddings elsewhere, what makes a Filipino wedding truly unique is the emphasis and importance it puts on the family. For this reason, most primary sponsors would be the couple’s godparents who apart from standing with them during the ceremony, are expected to give them sagely advice as regards marital and familial life. In any case, if you are attending a Filipino wedding, here are things you should expect or do:

1.) Give a timely RSVP

Invitations to a couple’s big day usually arrive weeks or months before the scheduled wedding date. Although in some cases, the physical form of a letter may arrive later than usual, you should do your part as a guest by sending your RSVP in a timely fashion. Remember that most couples would have to account for all of their guests through a final headcount. Giving the couple a prompt notice as to whether you will be attending or not would make it more convenient for them to decide on a final number of guests and a seating arrangement.

2.) Despedida de Soltera (Bachelorette Party)

Bachelorette parties in the Philippines are different (although, wild hen parties do still happen it all depends on the bride’s wishes). Filipino tradition dictates that a party would be held in favor of the bride to highlight her last few days as a single woman. While some bachelorette parties would involve raucous night out, this is also an event that would serve as a formal introduction to both sides of the family before the couple is officially wedded. So, if you have been given the honor of being part of the couple’s wedding entourage, do take part and contribute whatever you can to make this event more memorable.

3.) Take note of the maid of honor duties

If you have been given the prestige and honor of being a bride’s maid of honor, know that it is not an easy task. You are primarily chosen because the bride regards you as her closest confidante and trusts you to carry out your duties well. Apart from putting a bachelorette party together, your task would also include to organize the entourage for the wedding ceremony and attend to the bride’s needs. Additionally, it is also your duty to welcome and assist guests during the wedding reception.

4.) Follow the dress code given

While you can wear formal suits to weddings, if you want a more patriotic approach and something that would indeed appeal to Filipino tradition, you can do so by wearing the Filipino costume known as the Barong Tagalog. Dress codes are almost always indicated in the invitation–in any case, whatever you choose to wear for the wedding, always respect the couple’s wishes as to what kind of garb you should wear. This is the least you can do for their wedding day as an invited guest.

5.) Participate in the wedding games

Traditionally, Filipino wedding receptions would have intervals wherein games directed at married and single individuals are held. If you are a guest, do not dampen the couple’s spirits by refusing to partcipate—most especially if they call out your name. Have a great time and join the bouquet toss or garter toss if you are single. If you are married, enter some of the couple games with your spouse and just generally have fun.

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Tips on Being A Great Bridesmaid

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“A happy bridesmaid makes a happy bride” -Alfred Lord Tennyson

So, you have received the wedding invitation and have gotten the great honor of being a bridesmaid to the bride. You are ecstatic as well as excited for this big news. You and the bride have been friends for so long that playing the part of being part of her court as her bridesmaid should not prove to be incredibly difficult. Well, after all, you would only need to don on a beautiful gown, carry a bouquet of flowers and have a bright smile for the guests. Well, you do get to do that, but that makes up about a fraction of your bridesmaid duties. To be a great friend as well as an excellent bridesmaid, follow the various tips below and be the best support and bridesmaid a bride and a friend could ever ask.

1.) HELP WITH THE WEDDING SETUP

You might think that just because your friend has hired a top notch wedding coordinator and an army of caterers offering a party package, she would not need any more hands involved in her wedding. But before dismissing the idea of offering your help, try to ask the bride how you can help her. Do not wait until a week before the wedding and just offer your assistance whenever possible. Unknown to you, she might need help or even a friendly advice as to the seating arrangement of her guests, or might even ask you to throw a bachelorette party.

2.) DO NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT THE DRESS

Remember that this is her big day and not yours. So, even if you find the dress absolutely horrid and you dislike it to bits, do not complain about it. Remember, when you agreed to be her bridesmaid, you have another mandatory duty of wearing the dress, and technically, when you accepted her invitation to be a bridesmaid, it is implied that you agree to wear the dress. Do not throw a fit as regards the dress and keep in mind that the bride already has a lot of things to worry about without you adding to her stress.

3.) DO NOT GET WASTED

You might have your eye on one of the wedding guests or maybe one of the groomsmen, so naturally, you would want to let loose. You can drink in moderation but never to inebriation. Stay classy and do not be the bridesmaid and wedding guest who drank herself to stupor (not only on the wedding day but the bachelorette party as well). Take note of the fact that bride chose you to be her bridesmaid because she wants you to be there should she need anything and you are hardly any use if you get wasted. Additionally, your behavior will reflect on the bride and if anything, you should not embarrass her.

4.) RESPECT THE BRIDE’S DECISIONS

If there is an aspect of the wedding which you do not wholeheartedly agree with, but the bride is enthusiastic about, bite your tongue and respect her wishes. You may have written and prepared a speech you dreamed of saying on her wedding day, but she did not ask you to give one. Accept that and try not voice out your complaints. You may have difficulty in understanding her reasoning, but it is her big day, and it is her decision. However, if you feel strongly about one of her choices, let her know in a respectful and open-minded manner and do not try to change her mind once she has made her decision. You would not want to cause unnecessary pre-wedding drama.

5.) BE A LISTENER

Sometimes, all the bride would need is a good listening ear. She could be under a lot of stress from all the wedding planning and would need to rant and vent for a while. Be that listening ear to her and offer your moral support. More often than not, that is all the bride would need. Continuously ask yourself how you could make the experience even better for the bride, and she will greatly thank you and appreciate your efforts.

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