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Weddings Sins That Will Make Your Lola Gasp

It’s 2017, and it seems we forgot our values and traditions of weddings. Millenials have embraced the liberated culture of the West and have forgotten local traditions that are unique to Filipino culture. Thus, you may be guilty of committing wedding sins even when you aren’t aware. 

Read on to find which of the forgotten traditions will save your Lola from the heartache even if you are getting married in Intramuros – Casa Manila style.

 

Placing The Groom’s Name Before the Bride in Invitations

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The bride and her parents’ name should be written first. They are the host and share a large portion of the expenses. 

Your Lola and titas will agree to this because they’ve been through it. They definitely understand the delegation of responsibilities. Therefore it is tradition to have hers before the groom’s and his parents’ name on the invitations.

Thank you letters should print the groom’s name and his family before the bride’s name to show their support and acceptance to the ceremony and its proceedings.

 

The Bride Coming Before the Groom

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Ladies come first, but this isn’t one of those times. It’s bad luck for the groom to arrive after the bride. This is a grave sin for both couples, so be wary on your big day. 

Coordinate with each party and find a way to communicate if your partner is on his or her way. Be mindful of the time during preparation. Oversee any hindrance that may come along the way, be it traffic jam, a car breaking down, weather changes, broken zipper, lost pair of shoe or worse, a lost wedding ring.

 

 

The Bride Wearing a Pearl Jewelry

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It’s not pearl but look at what happened to Ariel because of the necklace.

As much as possible, pearl fanatics are discouraged from donning their prized accessories. Pearls resemble teardrops, and it is said that wearing pearl accessories will bring you tears. Unfortunately, they aren’t tears of joy.

Avoid wearing a string of pearls or pearl earrings on your wedding day. Doing so will bring sorrow and tears to your married life. Spare yourself and your future family from despair by following the tradition. Don’t come running to abuela, we warned you.

Like all events, there’s proper etiquette for guests. This case, the proper decorum also stems from our culture and traditions. Read this in case you get invited to someone’s big day.

 

Giving Sharp Objects as Gifts

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Give appropriate gifts. Remember when she thought forks were used for combing hair?

It may be tempting to give a set of knives to your BFF chef getting hitched this weekend, but doing so will bring bad luck. 

Sharp objects like scissors and gardening tools are home essentials, but there are other home necessities like appliances, pieces of furniture and home décor that are better given as presents to the newlyweds. They will greatly appreciate the gesture even if it’s not in the registry.

Giving a set of knives is also creepy, don’t you think?

 

Dress Code

The bride should be the most beautiful woman on her day. The groom is the most handsome man in the room. Not you nor your date

A wedding is a formal event, so dress accordingly. Some weddings have a theme indicated on the invite. Hence, respect the couple’s wishes what attire should be worn.

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Avoid stealing the spotlight and earning an eyeful from the elders by wearing skimpy dresses. Opt for modest clothing options. Don’t wear revealing, skin-tight dresses or short-sleeved casual attire. Polish your black shoes and style your hair to look clean and presentable. The guests’ appearance reflects the bride’s or the groom’s personality and any undesirable traits will reflect negatively to the in-laws.

 

Party Pooping

A wedding is also a celebration – feast of life, love, and unity. Don’t be a spoil sport by refusing to partake in the games and festivities. You’ll be putting down the energy and the mood of the couple. The goal is to attract positive and boundless energy for them. Do not be the cause to negate them.

These are some of the customs and traditions that are not observed by couples during their matrimonial rites. Guests also have to look out for these practices and make sure they follow the practices when gracing the event with their presence. If you want a refresher on other practices that are a must, head on to Casa Manila Museum. It features the lifestyle of elite Filipinos, who were conscious of social etiquettes and graces. It’s great place be purified and instill the traditions in yourself. Lola will be so proud.

Weddings 101: Five Truths Your Wedding Planner Will Never Tell You

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“No matter what happens, if at the end of your wedding day, you are married to the person you love, then it was a roaring success” – Quote from Hannah and Mat

 

Planning a wedding is no easy feat. It requires the harmony of various elements and aspects that would most often need the assistance of a professional. As such, this is the reason why so many brides-to-be would avail of the professional services of a wedding planner as they would help the bride realize her dream wedding and make it come into a fruition. In the wedding industry alone, you would know which wedding planners are the best as they offer the best deals for the bride’s available budget. After all, in the wedding business, everything can be negotiable if the couple knows how to compromise. This along with honesty are two of the best qualities an excellent wedding planner can have. Unfortunately, you cannot always count on your wedding planner to be a hundred percent frank–after all, there are some things that are best left a secret. But do not fear, today is your lucky day as this article allows you to be privy to some of the things your wedding planner would not dream of telling you:

 

1.) Your wedding taste may be tacky.

The theme you have chosen, the gowns you have selected, the engraved invitations–these things may look magnificent to you, but to a wedding planner who has seen and planned innumerable weddings, yours may fall short or pale in comparison. However, your wedding planner is not likely to tell you this, no matter how tacky your tastes may be and no matter how bad the wedding package in the Philippines you chose is. After all, if you are paying them a premium to do their jobs, they could not care less if you draped the wedding venue with paper flowers.

2.) You need to stop telling people you are getting married.

While you may want to bask in the excitement and euphoria, this is t exactly the most economic way to get wedding vendors or other aspects essential to the wedding. If you want to save on the wedding cake cost, do not ask for a tiered wedding cake from your chosen baker. Instead, just ask for the quote of an ordinary tiered cake and you would be surprised at the significant difference at the pricing.

3.) Bridesmaids dresses can still be glamorous while being affordable

A beautiful gown and an affordable gown does not have to be mutually exclusive–that is if you know where to have your gowns get done or if you know where to buy them. Instead of having a seamstress furnish you with every single member of the entourage’s entire formal ensemble, why not try visiting the prom section of a store. You will find great deals just under a couple of a thousand pesos–especially on off seasons where prom is long over.

4.) I know better than you do

Sure, this might be your dream wedding and while you might play a crucial role when it comes to wedding planning, do not make the rookie mistake of thinking you know better than your wedding planner. This might be the biggest day of your life, but it just so happens that this is the 200th wedding your planner has prepared for. So, whenever your planner offers a suggestion or would tell you that some aspects might not work, pay heed as they are doing exactly what you are paying them for. If you insist, you may end up with some botched aspects in the wedding.

5.) We want to work with you—even if you turn out to be a complete nightmare.

Pre-wedding stress is real. Complement that with planning stress syndrome and you have a recipe for disaster which most of the brides-to-be succumb to during the last few months of wedding planning. The truth is, even if you become rather hard to deal and work with, your wedding planner would still want to work with you. After all, you have bestowed the highest honor of entrusting to them the most special day of your life. That has to count for something and they would make sure they can deliver.

 

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Filipino Weddings: Five Things to Expect and Guest Conduct

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“Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness of sins.” -Lao Tzu

It is a known fact that weddings are big festive events, but in the Philippines, it is all the more festive and grand. Considering that the family is an integral part of the Filipino culture, family members, relatives and even friends from abroad would all take leave and come home to celebrate this momentous event in an individual’s life. As it is a rare time for everyone to be home at the same time, celebrations do not last just a day, but in some cases, it would last a week to a month depending on how long visitors from abroad intend to stay.

Apart from looking for an appropriate wedding package in the Philippines, a lot of preparation goes into a Filipino wedding. While there are some more elaborate weddings elsewhere, what makes a Filipino wedding truly unique is the emphasis and importance it puts on the family. For this reason, most primary sponsors would be the couple’s godparents who apart from standing with them during the ceremony, are expected to give them sagely advice as regards marital and familial life. In any case, if you are attending a Filipino wedding, here are things you should expect or do:

1.) Give a timely RSVP

Invitations to a couple’s big day usually arrive weeks or months before the scheduled wedding date. Although in some cases, the physical form of a letter may arrive later than usual, you should do your part as a guest by sending your RSVP in a timely fashion. Remember that most couples would have to account for all of their guests through a final headcount. Giving the couple a prompt notice as to whether you will be attending or not would make it more convenient for them to decide on a final number of guests and a seating arrangement.

2.) Despedida de Soltera (Bachelorette Party)

Bachelorette parties in the Philippines are different (although, wild hen parties do still happen it all depends on the bride’s wishes). Filipino tradition dictates that a party would be held in favor of the bride to highlight her last few days as a single woman. While some bachelorette parties would involve raucous night out, this is also an event that would serve as a formal introduction to both sides of the family before the couple is officially wedded. So, if you have been given the honor of being part of the couple’s wedding entourage, do take part and contribute whatever you can to make this event more memorable.

3.) Take note of the maid of honor duties

If you have been given the prestige and honor of being a bride’s maid of honor, know that it is not an easy task. You are primarily chosen because the bride regards you as her closest confidante and trusts you to carry out your duties well. Apart from putting a bachelorette party together, your task would also include to organize the entourage for the wedding ceremony and attend to the bride’s needs. Additionally, it is also your duty to welcome and assist guests during the wedding reception.

4.) Follow the dress code given

While you can wear formal suits to weddings, if you want a more patriotic approach and something that would indeed appeal to Filipino tradition, you can do so by wearing the Filipino costume known as the Barong Tagalog. Dress codes are almost always indicated in the invitation–in any case, whatever you choose to wear for the wedding, always respect the couple’s wishes as to what kind of garb you should wear. This is the least you can do for their wedding day as an invited guest.

5.) Participate in the wedding games

Traditionally, Filipino wedding receptions would have intervals wherein games directed at married and single individuals are held. If you are a guest, do not dampen the couple’s spirits by refusing to partcipate—most especially if they call out your name. Have a great time and join the bouquet toss or garter toss if you are single. If you are married, enter some of the couple games with your spouse and just generally have fun.

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Pre-Wedding Blues: Top Three Causes of Wedding Jitters

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No matter how in love or sure you are about your future spouse, weeks or months before your wedding day, you may experience a bout of pre-wedding jitters that would render you jittery, anxious and at times, a nervous wreck. Not to worry, this is simply the case of pre-wedding stress getting to you—perhaps from meticulously planning the wedding menu down to the the strategic seating arrangement of your guests. However, you need to sit down and contemplate about your proposal or your upcoming marriage if you are suddenly having doubts about your future partner—ones that would not go away after days of trying to relax. If you are having persistent qualms about your wedding, perhaps reviewing what the top three reasons for pre-wedding jitters would help you identify what is causing your anxiety.

1.) The wedding day

Sometimes, the wedding day itself would cause you incredible stress and anxiety. This is especially true for rather large weddings wherein every single one’s family, friend and relative are invited. Having all the people you care about in one room can cause you to worry especially if there are divorced parents, step-parents and even estranged family members involved, the wedding day can particularly be stressful. In other cases, it could be that being the spotlight is what is causing the stress. However, in any case, and in all instances, you should get support for your wedding day as this is essential. A counselor or a wedding planner would help you create a plan for dealing with difficult family members.

2.) Becoming a “wife” or “husband”

More often than not, the marriage of our parents would give us the first real insight of what a marriage is like and sometimes, their marriages would serve as the blueprint of yours. If your parents went through a particularly rocky relationship or if you came from a broken home or a home filled with anger, shame, neglect and violence, intimacy is something you would rarely see. If this is the case, we entertain the fear that we will turn out to be just like them no matter how irrational that may be/ Take note that you are not your parents so you do not exactly have to mirror your blueprint. Similarly, you can also choose not to repeat the same mistakes they have done. In any case, just because your parents did not have a happy marriage does not mean that yours is also doomed from the get-go.

3.) The plan after I-do

Remember that an essential thing before proposing to your significant other or even agreeing to become man and wife is to know what your plans are after the wedding. Some of these would involve significant questions that would determine you would do as a couple after your respective “I do’s”. These questions include if you want kids, where you should live, how much money you plan to make, how to budget, what kind of ambitions you would both have—and other questions of a similar tone. When you have talked about this with your partner, then well and good as you would at least know what your plans would be after the wedding and are least likely to stumble into a complication or come across a problem. However, if this is something you and your partner have barely discussed or never even talked about your problem then it would be understandable why you have wedding jitters that may even be particularly overwhelming.
Some couples think that these are the things they can work out after marriage and everything would fall into place right after.

However, a wedding is a major milestone in life and should you find that you and your partner are not on the same page as regards some aspects of marital life, you will end up having a lot of conflicts and arguments in the future. Before joining the nuptial club, consider having a one on one talk with your partner or find a couples counselor who would guide you both through discussions that would assist you create goals for yourselves and negotiate when your needs and desires differ.

 

 

 

Although it is normal to be wary about lasting decisions in life (such as choosing a life partner), the same cannot be said about persistent anxiety and worries about the state of your relationship and your marriage after you both have said I do. To know the root cause of you nuptial jitters, it would be wise to identify what is causing your stress to distinguish if what you are experiencing is a simple case of pre-wedding anxiety or something even more—and worth talking about with your fiance or fiancee.

 

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Brides Eyes Here: Secrets in Staying Comfortable All throughout Your Wedding Day!

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No one looks forward to a wedding day more than the bride herself. She has had the details streamlined at a very young age and has envisaged how she would look like walking down the aisle from the moment she witnessed her very first wedding day. It is precisely for this reason why there are so many articles online proffering tips and guides as to how a bride stays amazing throughout the entire course of her wedding–from that momentous walk down the aisle to her first dance with the groom.

However, when you have been beleaguered by your wedding plans for days, weighed down by your heavy wedding gown and full face makeup and a whole lot of hairspray, it can be quite a challenge to stay fabulous and comfortable as well. To guarantee you stay comfortable as you are beautiful, here are some of the most useful tips for your wedding day. These tips will allow you to enjoy your wedding day without having a worry about your hair, your dress or even your makeup.

1.) Refrain from squeezing yourself into too-tight shapewear

It is understandable for brides to desire to look like a runway model with a svelte and lithe figure on their wedding day. In fact, most brides-to-be would spend weeks and even months prior to their wedding on a strict diet regime and would squeeze themselves into tight shapewear as last minute attempt. But, it is never worth it. Undoubtedly, you would look sexy, but you will be in extreme discomfort as well. Eating would be a lot more challenging, and dancing would be close to impossible.

2.) Bring a wrap

Wedding venues are varied, but regardless of whether you chose an indoor or outdoor wedding venue, it is imperative that you bring a wrap with you. This is particularly the case if there is even a chance for a cool breeze or low temperatures. You would want to bundle up should a cold breeze occur and you would not want to be cold during picture taking. Choose an appropriate jacket or a wrap which would look great with your wedding dress.

3.) Save the lingerie for your wedding night

Wearing lingerie underneath the wedding dress might seem like a sultry idea, but it is not exactly the most comfortable way to spend your wedding day. After all the dancing and generally wearing them the entire day, there is going to be a big chance that your cute and sexy number underneath would look anything but that by the time the night is over. You would want to wear them while they are fresh and presentable, not when they have apparently been worn the entire day.

4.) Get some air

If you are having a summer wedding, the chances of it being incredibly humid and hot are going to be very high. Undoubtedly, a hot and stuffy weather outside and a big cumbersome wedding gown on you do not actually mix. To keep yourself cool, pack a tiny handheld fan which you can use to blow air on your legs under your dress, under your arms or face and so on when needed. An incredibly hot weather can easily turn an intricate gown into a walking oven.

5.) Bring a second pair of shoes

No matter how comfortable your shoes are, the chances of your wedding dance floor being wood are high and heels on wood do not really go well together. Within the first hour of dancing, it is guaranteed that your feet will hurt which would lessen the chances of you and your groom dancing the night away. Always bring a pair of emergency shoes with you such as a pair of flats or slippers even, so you can easily swap out your heels whenever your stressed feet would need a break.

 

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Personal Checklist: Getting Best Value Caterers for Your Wedding!

Your big day’s fast approaching, and you’re doing the final check of the event must-haves and must-dos – guest list, events place, technical support, program flow and performances.

There is just one more thing left – a catering service.

Food and beverage are make-or-break factors that can dictate your event’s success, and as a host, getting a reliable one that provides competent service and delectable food is a MUST.  Have a quick look at this sample checklist you can use to narrow down your options!

Word of mouth recommendations

An online search may be faster, but when it comes to the real deal, talking with actual customers is still a better choice. Call a friend or colleagues who have hosted an event before and list down some of the catering services they recommend.

Caterers who leave your friend nodding in satisfaction will most likely be your thumbs up choice.

Food & Beverage

How else can you decide if their menus is a go without actually tasting it? So go ahead, give the service a call and schedule a tasting day. Highly commended ones are more than willing to do this for you. Ask them to prepare their best or request a cuisine. Bon appétit!

Chef  & Staff

Before, it’s about looking for services with the LONGEST years of catering experience. Now it’s more on the BEST CHEF & STAFF in town. The length of years a company has in the industry doesn’t necessarily translate to the tastiest food variety.

If you want appetizing selection fit for the occasion and nutritional requirement, a top-of-the-line chef is your go-to pick!

Attention to details

While caterers are the primary in charge of providing your event’s menu, always be reminded that you are the boss. You’re the ones who provide the theme and specifics the service would need in preparing their menu. It’s always an advantage to go for those who show the willingness to listen to your request, ask relevant questions and provide you with the best available alternatives.

Event Specialty

‘Aren’t all caterers the same?’ You ask.

Yes and no. Yes, they both offer food for a variety of occasion, and no, they don’t specialize on an entirely the same nature of events.

Some services specialize in huge gatherings such as company parties and seniors prom. Others focus on smaller events like family reunions and exclusive birthday parties.  There are even those who only cater to event deliveries and don’t have the setup and staffing included in their package.

Enjoy the smooth flow of the celebration and pick the service that specializes on the occasion you are hosting.

Liability insurance

Regardless of the event type or size, we want to see the best of it and make our guests satisfied. But whether we like it or not, bad things happen at times. Surely, we wouldn’t want to bear the responsibility of answering for damages incurred by our caterer, right?

Before saying yes to a deal, verify the presence of insurance including its coverage. This protects you from any liabilities in case the service incurs some errors resulting to guest accidents and the like.

Contract details

Lastly, read and understand the contract. It’s a requirement, and all catering services are mandated to offer this to their clients. The contents may differ, but the salient points such as the cancellation policy, damages, additional payment, and inclusions are all detailed in this document.

Don’t hesitate to raise points of clarification when you find vague conditions you find hard to understand. Be informed. It’s safer that way.

Special occasions will not be complete in the absence of food and beverage. Create a checklist of the most recommended services and drop them a visit!

The Four Most Popular Wedding Themes

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“Weddings are not about spending the least amount of money or the most amount of money, they are about spending good money on the elements that are most important to you and your partner” –Kristi Richardson

 

Modern weddings today are more often than not, dominated by a solitary theme. They are either dictated by a music genre, a color, or would even revolve around a pop culture reference or your wedding venue. Whichever it may be, wedding themes certainly have that charm about them that makes a wedding affair truly unique. Some of the most successful wedding events have a singular theme surrounding the entire affair. Whether it is the classic vintage, traditional, rustic romantic, contemporary or some of even the most modern themes (Disney, Star Wars Harry Potter, etc.), it gives any wedding that personal feel that would make it all the more memorable to the couple.

Apart from the sentimental aspect these themes bring, themes are crucial as it would serve as the main focus in guiding many various wedding features such as the decorations, invitations, color palettes, the music, the ambiance, the flowers and the overall feel. As a result, your wedding would have a unified concept in diverse aspects without the feeling of it being incredibly disorganized. If you are getting hitched anytime soon and are still unsure of which theme to incorporate into your wedding, take a gander at some of the most popular themes couples worldwide have chosen. From this list, you may get an idea or two that you could utilize on your wedding day.

RUSTIC CHIC THEME

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Earthy, romantic with a touch of elegance, the rustic chic has been one of the contemporary wedding themes that saw a surge in popularity in the modern era. The warm colors and tones utilized in this wedding theme create a truly quixotic aura that would dominate the wedding venue’s ambiance. It is relatively simple to create a rustic chic theme, but it is imperative that the chosen venue is appropriate for the theme. Once you have the designated wedding location covered, all you would need is to create a complementary décor that would tie it all up nicely. Whether your rustic wedding theme is held in a garden or a vineyard, these rustic celebrations all have 3 things in common: a natural landscape, the incorporation of wood in multiple ways, the usage of the same decors in such a way that would look like they could exist in your home or garden.

VINTAGE THEME

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Truly a classic and a trusty go-to wedding theme that would certainly give any wedding affair that elegant touch. This wedding theme remains to be one of the most sought after as it captures the quaint and subtle sophistication of a bygone era people are still so fond of. The vintage route is dominated by a singular décor that is common in all vintage wedding themes: lace. This means your gown should largely incorporate lace into its design and the color palette should be muted. Ivory, slate gray rose, and gold would make excellent colors that would go with this theme. As elegance and sophistication are core aspects of this theme, hanging chandeliers, billowy fabrics to make makeshift canopies and trellises embellished with white floral arrangements are a must.

CLASSIC ROMANTIC THEME

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One of the wedding themes that would not seem dated even after fifty or so years is the classic romantic theme. This is that one particular wedding theme that proves that classic does not have to be unexciting and staid. When you are going for the classic romantic route, one thing you must keep in mind is that flowers dominate this theme and create drama with your outfits. This means the church aisle should have festoons of floral arrangements and in the same way, your wedding reception should be swathed in flowers. Your outfits, as well as the entourage’s, should create a dramatic effect: A fit and flare gown with crystal detailing for the bride, a classic black tux for the groom and the bridal entourage in matching floor-length elegant gowns.

SEASIDE CELEBRATION

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For couples who are looking to have their wedding venue and event double up as a honeymoon destination and a getaway for the guests, this is the most favorable and applicable wedding theme they can utilize. Pretty laid-back and relaxed, a wedding by the beach gives many couples the delight of exchanging their vows with the ocean as their picturesque view with the warm feel of sand in between their toes. For a coastal approach, crisp whites, greens, and blues would work best and for an unexpected twist, use elements such as beach grass, seashells and the like.

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