Joyful Weddings: Five Things You Should Never Include in Your Wedding Toast

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“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person”-Mignon Mclaughlin

 

One of the best things about attending a wedding reception is getting to hear various wedding guests—especially those closest to the couple—regale the hall with tales and anecdotes of the couple’s adventures (or even misadventures). At times, a lot of pressure is put on the wedding speech giver to ensure that what he or she will deliver would not only be perfect but memorable and a fun one as well.

However, remember that for the most part, the wedding speech you are giving is mostly for the couple and would only serve as entertainment to those listening in. In that regard, you would not want to include personal matters that only you and the couple are privy to in your speech. While you might want to entertain the wedding guests, you would also not want to disclose stories that are either too personal or embarrassing for the couple. Keep it light, fun and entertaining without being over the top. Remember, there is a variety of ways to keep your speech from being boring without resorting to spilling the sordid details of what your friend did way back in college. More importantly, it is imperative to keep in mind that with a captive audience of both the bride and groom’s family and friends, what you leave out of your speech or toast is just as important as what you put in. So, what should be left out then? Here are some of the things that should never be included in wedding toasts and speeches for comedic effect or whatever reason:

 

Your errant misadventures with your friend

Regardless of how small, funny or insignificant an infraction might be it should never make it into a wedding speech when it involves getting in trouble with the law. Sure, you and your friend might have found the time wherein you got busted for underage drinking funny but your friend certainly would not appreciate you sharing that fact to all of his or her friends and relatives. Reminiscing about old times might bring in the nostalgia but it is inappropriate to share with someone’s in-laws, colleagues and grandparents in the room. Save those stories for bachelor and bachelorette parties but for your wedding toast or speech, offer a fond memory that speaks highly of the couple’s characters.

 

Bringing up any trouble in paradise

If you happen to be privy about the couple’s private lives such as knowing whether or not the family approves of him or that one time they fought about their finances, know that they made you a confidante for a reason. With that said, your wedding toast is definitely not the best place to bring that up—even if the couple did manage to reconcile or patch things up. Leave any mention of internal family drama or conflict out of your toast as you might potentially spell trouble for them.

 

Any of the couple’s exes

A wedding is neither the time nor the place to bring up any of the couples’ exes. Remember, the wedding is about the couple who just tied the knot and are about to start a future together. In this regard, you should not bring up anything—or anyone for that matter—from their pasts as it would only succeed in making them feel uncomfortable. More importantly, it would be sure to make their wedding guests ill at ease as well. In lieu of bringing up their exes, regale the audience with a story of how the couple met instead.

 

What transpired in the respective bachelor and bachelorette parties

Your wedding toast is not an avenue for you to expose your friend’s shenanigans and wild side. Keep in mind that what happens on the respective parties should only stay there. Remind yourself of why you and your friend have been with each other for the longest time and have had each other’s backs through the good times and the bad. Do not include any unflattering stories about your friend or the couple in your toast and instead, use it as an opportunity to tell the audience what you love about the couple and why you value their friendship.

 

An inside joke

An inside joke is called an inside joke for a reason. In this regard, it should only stay between you and your friend. Remember, you want everyone to be able to relate to your speech about the couple. So, if you recall a time that only you and your friend would know about, you will undoubtedly have some of the audience members scratching their heads. As a result, the audience will feel left out and no one would understand why your story is actually funny. Remember, the guests want to know more about the couple and their relationship. So, try to steer your focus towards that instead of regaling them with inside joke only you would probably find funny.

 

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Joyful Weddings: Five Indispensable Tips in Choosing a Maid of Honor

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Maid of Honor (noun)

  • A close friend or sister to the bride
  • One who gives emotional support on the big day
  • Helps the bride pick out the perfect dress
  • Plans a hosts a perfect bachelorette party/ bridal shower
  • An excellent listener and confidante
  • A girl a bride needs by her side when she says “I do!”

 

Planning your big day is already hard by itself, but the process will be so much smoother and easier if you had the helping hand of your maid of honor. While all the things stated above would already detail the responsibilities of your maid of honor (and would definitely narrow down your list of prospective candidates), it would still prove to be a challenge to consider just one woman for this role. This is especially true if you are a bride who grew up with a lot of girlfriends. However, not to worry, know that although choosing a maid of honor is an intimidating prospect (imagine all those duties handed out to a single person!), your choice would ultimately mitigate the stress involved in the wedding planning—from helping you choose the most appropriate wedding package down to aiding you in the search for the perfect wedding gown.

 

Take note: Their duties are extensive, so selecting the right person would be paramount to the overall success of your event. In this regard, maid of honor selection would require some consideration. Here are some of the things to keep in mind in choosing your maid of honor:

 

A good listener

As a bride, you are going to have bouts of disappointments and frustrations when things do not live up to your expectations. This is inevitable and you are going to rant or at least need to vent out. With this in mind, you need to choose someone who can listen to you and pick up on what your wants and needs are. Apart from knowing how to listen to you, they would also pick up on the small details they would need in planning for your wedding shower and bachelorette party in such a way that it would be a true reflection of you (and not of what they think is cute).

 

Sense of humor

Wedding planning can be a long and stressful time insomuch that it might wear you down. A good laugh here and there will be very much welcome and appreciated. If you know someone who can keep you in stitches regardless of how stressful a situation might be, then she might be a good candidate for being your maid of honor. Apart from ensuring you would see the brighter side of things; they would be able to keep you at ease as well.

 

Proximity

Choose a maid of honor that lives close to you—someone who can be there and would be available for major events such as dress fittings, cake tastings and venue selections. You might want your best friend to be your maid of honor, but if they live on another continent, you might need to make some concessions.

 

Choose a social butterfly

Choose a maid of honor that is comfortable in large group settings and would be able to approach people with a smile on her face. Go for someone who is not timid but is assertive as this will ensure for a smoother and better bridal shower and bachelorette party planning. Furthermore, your maid of honor will likely function as the head of your bridesmaid squad insomuch that the task of dress fitting schedules and the like would be delegated to her. In this regard, she would need to maintain a correspondence with them and should be able to communicate with them constantly. A maid of honor that is shy would likely have a hard time gathering people for an event and would not likely make the first move in planning for a bachelorette party.

 

Vision

One of the biggest and most pivotal aspects of any wedding planning is to find your vision. Your maid of honor should have a good sense of your style so that you would be amped up about the bigger picture and your wedding day itself. In this regard, you need a maid of honor that truly understands your tastes and would see your vision as well as add to it in ways that would complement your overall style.

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Modern Brides: Five Unconventional Ways Modern Brides are Breaking Tradition

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“The true beauty of a bride lies in the eyes of the groom”-Author Unknown

Weddings have always been about traditions—or are they?

In this time and age, contemporary brides have long since forgotten long-held customs and traditions and have made several wedding practices of their very own. While some wedding practices are still deeply ingrained and have no signs of going away anytime soon, modern brides have made some of their traditions as well. Of course, while elaborate receptions for lavish brides as well as sophisticated catering packages for weddings are still customary, the way modern brides have been breaking tradition has recently been making waves.

Here are just some of the ways they do it:

1.) Wearing flats

Over the years, brides have always worn heeled shoes on their wedding day. Whether it is to make up for the height difference or simply because it affects a more proper and elegant posture in them, we do not know, but the practice has since the persisted—that is until one bride decided to forego the heels. In lieu of having aching soles at the end of the day, most brides would now ditch the heels in favor of flats. In this regard, they would be able to fully enjoy their wedding whether they choose to spend it dancing or entertaining guests. No longer are flat shoes reserved for beach weddings, but they are now considered as a pivotal addition to a modern bridal ensemble.

2.) Wear your necklace backward

A trend made popular by it-girl Jennifer Lawrence, wearing your necklace backward is perfect for brides who chose a wedding gown or dress with an open back. Give your bridal ensemble a more dramatic effect and flair by styling your hair away from your nape so that your back and your necklace is worn backward would be totally exposed. This is truly one contemporary look that breaks the mold and is sure to catch the eyes and attention of your wedding guests.

3.) Mixing and matching bridesmaids dresses

Gone are the days wherein a bride’s entourage would all wear a unique color which is basically the wedding’s motif. Today, modern brides would go for a wedding theme in lieu of a wedding motif. As a result, brides can now incorporate an array of colors into their wedding theme and successfully inject more colors to the apparel of their entourage. Today, weddings would no longer be in a single shade of blue but in a myriad of colors which makes for a more festive event.

4.) Making a statement

Modern brides are all about making a statement and breaking away from tradition. In this regard, bridal jewelry and the like are considered commonplace and usual. Brides would now try to look for an aspect in their weddings that would set them apart from others. Whether that may be sporting a necktie instead of adorning yourself with jewelry or featuring a scarf tied to one side would be totally up to you. In any case, it should be a feature that is distinct to your dress and would give your overall look a point of difference.

5.) Gothic Brides

While most conventional brides would still balk at the idea of wearing an all-black gown on their wedding day, some modern brides have found ways to inject a bit of this gothic theme and color into their dresses. For one, they might opt on wearing a darker shade of lipstick instead of a lighter toned one. Similarly, they can choose to wear their hair in a loose, braided up-do that would look more punk that it is pretty. Whatever their choice might be, they wish to give their looks an edgier touch.

 

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Weddings Sins That Will Make Your Lola Gasp

It’s 2017, and it seems we forgot our values and traditions of weddings. Millenials have embraced the liberated culture of the West and have forgotten local traditions that are unique to Filipino culture. Thus, you may be guilty of committing wedding sins even when you aren’t aware. 

Read on to find which of the forgotten traditions will save your Lola from the heartache even if you are getting married in Intramuros – Casa Manila style.

 

Placing The Groom’s Name Before the Bride in Invitations

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The bride and her parents’ name should be written first. They are the host and share a large portion of the expenses. 

Your Lola and titas will agree to this because they’ve been through it. They definitely understand the delegation of responsibilities. Therefore it is tradition to have hers before the groom’s and his parents’ name on the invitations.

Thank you letters should print the groom’s name and his family before the bride’s name to show their support and acceptance to the ceremony and its proceedings.

 

The Bride Coming Before the Groom

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Ladies come first, but this isn’t one of those times. It’s bad luck for the groom to arrive after the bride. This is a grave sin for both couples, so be wary on your big day. 

Coordinate with each party and find a way to communicate if your partner is on his or her way. Be mindful of the time during preparation. Oversee any hindrance that may come along the way, be it traffic jam, a car breaking down, weather changes, broken zipper, lost pair of shoe or worse, a lost wedding ring.

 

 

The Bride Wearing a Pearl Jewelry

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It’s not pearl but look at what happened to Ariel because of the necklace.

As much as possible, pearl fanatics are discouraged from donning their prized accessories. Pearls resemble teardrops, and it is said that wearing pearl accessories will bring you tears. Unfortunately, they aren’t tears of joy.

Avoid wearing a string of pearls or pearl earrings on your wedding day. Doing so will bring sorrow and tears to your married life. Spare yourself and your future family from despair by following the tradition. Don’t come running to abuela, we warned you.

Like all events, there’s proper etiquette for guests. This case, the proper decorum also stems from our culture and traditions. Read this in case you get invited to someone’s big day.

 

Giving Sharp Objects as Gifts

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Give appropriate gifts. Remember when she thought forks were used for combing hair?

It may be tempting to give a set of knives to your BFF chef getting hitched this weekend, but doing so will bring bad luck. 

Sharp objects like scissors and gardening tools are home essentials, but there are other home necessities like appliances, pieces of furniture and home décor that are better given as presents to the newlyweds. They will greatly appreciate the gesture even if it’s not in the registry.

Giving a set of knives is also creepy, don’t you think?

 

Dress Code

The bride should be the most beautiful woman on her day. The groom is the most handsome man in the room. Not you nor your date

A wedding is a formal event, so dress accordingly. Some weddings have a theme indicated on the invite. Hence, respect the couple’s wishes what attire should be worn.

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Avoid stealing the spotlight and earning an eyeful from the elders by wearing skimpy dresses. Opt for modest clothing options. Don’t wear revealing, skin-tight dresses or short-sleeved casual attire. Polish your black shoes and style your hair to look clean and presentable. The guests’ appearance reflects the bride’s or the groom’s personality and any undesirable traits will reflect negatively to the in-laws.

 

Party Pooping

A wedding is also a celebration – feast of life, love, and unity. Don’t be a spoil sport by refusing to partake in the games and festivities. You’ll be putting down the energy and the mood of the couple. The goal is to attract positive and boundless energy for them. Do not be the cause to negate them.

These are some of the customs and traditions that are not observed by couples during their matrimonial rites. Guests also have to look out for these practices and make sure they follow the practices when gracing the event with their presence. If you want a refresher on other practices that are a must, head on to Casa Manila Museum. It features the lifestyle of elite Filipinos, who were conscious of social etiquettes and graces. It’s great place be purified and instill the traditions in yourself. Lola will be so proud.

Weddings 101: Five Wedding Traditions and Their Surprising Origins

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Over the years, we may have attended many weddings and noticed a lot of universal elements that seem present in each and every one of them. In the magical glow of the wedding venue, we have seen the groom bestow a kiss on the bride, we have seen the bride joyously throw her bouquet to a gaggle of single ladies, we have seen wedding guests showing the newly wedded couple with rice or flowers–all these and more. But, have you ever wondered where all of these came from? Where did these wedding traditions originate and what do they signify?

Well, this article has compiled a list of the most common wedding traditions and their corresponding origins as well as meanings. Here are some of the most beloved and practiced wedding traditions all over the globe:

1.) Bachelor Party

Bachelor parties have always been a bane to a bride’s existence, and more often than not, brides-to-be see this as an event to dread. It seems that most bachelor parties have been associated with night’s of drunken orgies and hiring strippers for a party. However, before it became a night dedicated to pure debauchery, this was a night where Ancient Romans would gather in a feast they dubbed as a “Bachelor Dinner.” They would then toast their comrade and kidnap the bride after that.

2.) Bridal Shower

This wedding practice is said to have been stemmed from a tradition in Holland. It was said that there was a bride whose father did not approve of her husband and refused her any dowry. As a result, her friends would all collectively shower her with gifts of any kind so that the bride would have a necessary dowry and would be able to marry the man of her choosing. Then, the woman who was not bestowed dowry by her father would be given a shower by her friends. Regardless of whether this legend is true, a bridal shower seems to have stemmed from the idea of friends and neighbors showering the bride with gifts because her father did not approve of her husband-to-be or was too poor to afford any dowry.

3.) White Wedding Dress

Today, modern weddings have brides walking the aisle in a white gown of her choice but not too long ago; a bridal dress was simply just the best dress she has in her closet–regardless of whether it was white or not. However, it was not until Queen Victoria’s wedding in the 1840’s wherein the hue of the wedding dress was vastly preferred to be white did the wedding tradition began. It was her iconic white wedding dress that started it all. Although brides still wore bridal dresses of other colors, it was her decision that inspired many brides-to-be to do the same.

4.) Wearing a veil

In the Roman times, veils were worn by Roman brides to symbolize her virginity, purity, and modesty. Although the connotation of why the bride is required to wear a veil has been lost over the years, the tradition of donning one still continues. It is also interesting to note that the Roman veil would cover the bride from head to foot. Sometimes later, it would be used as a burial shroud.

5.) Something old, new, borrowed and blue

Although this practice is mainly out of superstition, this tradition dated back to the Victorian era and was said to bring the bride good luck. The old aspect of the superstition was meant to tie the bride to her past and her family while the new would represent her new life in her new family. Brides were supposed to borrow an item from a successfully married woman in hopes of bringing that woman’s success in marriage into her own. Lastly, blue was said to symbolize purity.

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