Wedding Receptions: Four Types of Food Never to Serve At Your Wedding

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“Food is our common ground, a universal experience.” -James Beard
A witty and catchy proverb about weddings has said that the most dangerous food is a wedding cake. Although it is meant to be funny and entertaining, the adage’s sentiment echoes a metaphor that you should be careful and at least meticulous about what you serve to your guests. You may have scoured countless of wedding packages in the Philippines, but your guests would hardly find any of the garlands of flowers, or splendid entourage ensembles memorable but giving them a hearty and savory dinner experience will certainly make an impressive impact. Without a doubt, most of your guests would be looking forward to what they will eat during your wedding reception and you ought not to disappoint and deliver. Indeed, one of the biggest decisions you will have to make when planning your wedding is the menu as well as the appropriate budget for it seeing as feeding a sizable guest list would not come in cheap.

To make the decision-making the process a bit easier and less complicated, know which types of food you should not include in your list and from there you can create a menu that will leave your guests with a lasting and memorable taste in their mouths.

1.) Food that requires an intricate setup

While it may look gorgeous by the buffet table and is an entertainment feat itself, the main attraction of your wedding reception should be you and your new spouse. Not the food prepared. Having your caterer prepare complicated setups for food stuff might sound like a great way to make an impact and impress your friends. In a sense, it would even set your wedding apart, but unless you are celebrating an intimate wedding, it would be challenging to get each dish made for each guest. Choose another way to dazzle your guests apart from making complicated food.

2. Anything Raw

While sushi and sashimi are excellent additions to the wedding banquet, serving other kinds of raw food items can be potentially risky. Steak tartare might sound sublime, but the two primary ingredients are raw meat and a runny egg. It might look elegant and grand, but in some cases, it would not do your or your guests’ stomachs any favors. Skip the uncooked fares and best be safe rather than sorry.

3.) An all meat (or anything) buffet

To any meat lovers out there, this sounds like the only way to throw a wedding banquet. Dishes upon dishes of various meats—a carnivorous treat if you may. While the array of different meat might sound like a succulent feast to you, your guests might not have the same enthusiasm. Regardless of what your favorite food might be, it is always best to introduce a little bit of variety. Similarly, cheese lovers, seafood lovers, and chocolate lovers should introduce dishes that are not all chocolate based, cheese based and the like. After all, there are only so many ways you can prepare dishes from a single ingredient.

4.) Mini versions of everything

Traditionally, it would be great to serve your guest’s tea sandwiches, mini-sized burgers, and even pocket-sized pizza during the cocktail hour while they are waiting for you to make your grand entrance. However, serving mini versions of everything is not a great idea if this is all you are serving. Your guests would need a little more substantial during the main course and believe or not, the cocktail drinks and finger foods are there only to keep their hunger at bay, not fully satiate it. Consider serving something a bit more filling than soup and salads.

 

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Filipino Weddings: Five Things to Expect and Guest Conduct

Brenda Chu and Alvin Raagas

“Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness of sins.” -Lao Tzu

It is a known fact that weddings are big festive events, but in the Philippines, it is all the more festive and grand. Considering that the family is an integral part of the Filipino culture, family members, relatives and even friends from abroad would all take leave and come home to celebrate this momentous event in an individual’s life. As it is a rare time for everyone to be home at the same time, celebrations do not last just a day, but in some cases, it would last a week to a month depending on how long visitors from abroad intend to stay.

Apart from looking for an appropriate wedding package in the Philippines, a lot of preparation goes into a Filipino wedding. While there are some more elaborate weddings elsewhere, what makes a Filipino wedding truly unique is the emphasis and importance it puts on the family. For this reason, most primary sponsors would be the couple’s godparents who apart from standing with them during the ceremony, are expected to give them sagely advice as regards marital and familial life. In any case, if you are attending a Filipino wedding, here are things you should expect or do:

1.) Give a timely RSVP

Invitations to a couple’s big day usually arrive weeks or months before the scheduled wedding date. Although in some cases, the physical form of a letter may arrive later than usual, you should do your part as a guest by sending your RSVP in a timely fashion. Remember that most couples would have to account for all of their guests through a final headcount. Giving the couple a prompt notice as to whether you will be attending or not would make it more convenient for them to decide on a final number of guests and a seating arrangement.

2.) Despedida de Soltera (Bachelorette Party)

Bachelorette parties in the Philippines are different (although, wild hen parties do still happen it all depends on the bride’s wishes). Filipino tradition dictates that a party would be held in favor of the bride to highlight her last few days as a single woman. While some bachelorette parties would involve raucous night out, this is also an event that would serve as a formal introduction to both sides of the family before the couple is officially wedded. So, if you have been given the honor of being part of the couple’s wedding entourage, do take part and contribute whatever you can to make this event more memorable.

3.) Take note of the maid of honor duties

If you have been given the prestige and honor of being a bride’s maid of honor, know that it is not an easy task. You are primarily chosen because the bride regards you as her closest confidante and trusts you to carry out your duties well. Apart from putting a bachelorette party together, your task would also include to organize the entourage for the wedding ceremony and attend to the bride’s needs. Additionally, it is also your duty to welcome and assist guests during the wedding reception.

4.) Follow the dress code given

While you can wear formal suits to weddings, if you want a more patriotic approach and something that would indeed appeal to Filipino tradition, you can do so by wearing the Filipino costume known as the Barong Tagalog. Dress codes are almost always indicated in the invitation–in any case, whatever you choose to wear for the wedding, always respect the couple’s wishes as to what kind of garb you should wear. This is the least you can do for their wedding day as an invited guest.

5.) Participate in the wedding games

Traditionally, Filipino wedding receptions would have intervals wherein games directed at married and single individuals are held. If you are a guest, do not dampen the couple’s spirits by refusing to partcipate—most especially if they call out your name. Have a great time and join the bouquet toss or garter toss if you are single. If you are married, enter some of the couple games with your spouse and just generally have fun.

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Pre-Wedding Blues: Top Three Causes of Wedding Jitters

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No matter how in love or sure you are about your future spouse, weeks or months before your wedding day, you may experience a bout of pre-wedding jitters that would render you jittery, anxious and at times, a nervous wreck. Not to worry, this is simply the case of pre-wedding stress getting to you—perhaps from meticulously planning the wedding menu down to the the strategic seating arrangement of your guests. However, you need to sit down and contemplate about your proposal or your upcoming marriage if you are suddenly having doubts about your future partner—ones that would not go away after days of trying to relax. If you are having persistent qualms about your wedding, perhaps reviewing what the top three reasons for pre-wedding jitters would help you identify what is causing your anxiety.

1.) The wedding day

Sometimes, the wedding day itself would cause you incredible stress and anxiety. This is especially true for rather large weddings wherein every single one’s family, friend and relative are invited. Having all the people you care about in one room can cause you to worry especially if there are divorced parents, step-parents and even estranged family members involved, the wedding day can particularly be stressful. In other cases, it could be that being the spotlight is what is causing the stress. However, in any case, and in all instances, you should get support for your wedding day as this is essential. A counselor or a wedding planner would help you create a plan for dealing with difficult family members.

2.) Becoming a “wife” or “husband”

More often than not, the marriage of our parents would give us the first real insight of what a marriage is like and sometimes, their marriages would serve as the blueprint of yours. If your parents went through a particularly rocky relationship or if you came from a broken home or a home filled with anger, shame, neglect and violence, intimacy is something you would rarely see. If this is the case, we entertain the fear that we will turn out to be just like them no matter how irrational that may be/ Take note that you are not your parents so you do not exactly have to mirror your blueprint. Similarly, you can also choose not to repeat the same mistakes they have done. In any case, just because your parents did not have a happy marriage does not mean that yours is also doomed from the get-go.

3.) The plan after I-do

Remember that an essential thing before proposing to your significant other or even agreeing to become man and wife is to know what your plans are after the wedding. Some of these would involve significant questions that would determine you would do as a couple after your respective “I do’s”. These questions include if you want kids, where you should live, how much money you plan to make, how to budget, what kind of ambitions you would both have—and other questions of a similar tone. When you have talked about this with your partner, then well and good as you would at least know what your plans would be after the wedding and are least likely to stumble into a complication or come across a problem. However, if this is something you and your partner have barely discussed or never even talked about your problem then it would be understandable why you have wedding jitters that may even be particularly overwhelming.
Some couples think that these are the things they can work out after marriage and everything would fall into place right after.

However, a wedding is a major milestone in life and should you find that you and your partner are not on the same page as regards some aspects of marital life, you will end up having a lot of conflicts and arguments in the future. Before joining the nuptial club, consider having a one on one talk with your partner or find a couples counselor who would guide you both through discussions that would assist you create goals for yourselves and negotiate when your needs and desires differ.

 

 

 

Although it is normal to be wary about lasting decisions in life (such as choosing a life partner), the same cannot be said about persistent anxiety and worries about the state of your relationship and your marriage after you both have said I do. To know the root cause of you nuptial jitters, it would be wise to identify what is causing your stress to distinguish if what you are experiencing is a simple case of pre-wedding anxiety or something even more—and worth talking about with your fiance or fiancee.

 

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Tips on Being A Great Bridesmaid

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“A happy bridesmaid makes a happy bride” -Alfred Lord Tennyson

So, you have received the wedding invitation and have gotten the great honor of being a bridesmaid to the bride. You are ecstatic as well as excited for this big news. You and the bride have been friends for so long that playing the part of being part of her court as her bridesmaid should not prove to be incredibly difficult. Well, after all, you would only need to don on a beautiful gown, carry a bouquet of flowers and have a bright smile for the guests. Well, you do get to do that, but that makes up about a fraction of your bridesmaid duties. To be a great friend as well as an excellent bridesmaid, follow the various tips below and be the best support and bridesmaid a bride and a friend could ever ask.

1.) HELP WITH THE WEDDING SETUP

You might think that just because your friend has hired a top notch wedding coordinator and an army of caterers offering a party package, she would not need any more hands involved in her wedding. But before dismissing the idea of offering your help, try to ask the bride how you can help her. Do not wait until a week before the wedding and just offer your assistance whenever possible. Unknown to you, she might need help or even a friendly advice as to the seating arrangement of her guests, or might even ask you to throw a bachelorette party.

2.) DO NOT COMPLAIN ABOUT THE DRESS

Remember that this is her big day and not yours. So, even if you find the dress absolutely horrid and you dislike it to bits, do not complain about it. Remember, when you agreed to be her bridesmaid, you have another mandatory duty of wearing the dress, and technically, when you accepted her invitation to be a bridesmaid, it is implied that you agree to wear the dress. Do not throw a fit as regards the dress and keep in mind that the bride already has a lot of things to worry about without you adding to her stress.

3.) DO NOT GET WASTED

You might have your eye on one of the wedding guests or maybe one of the groomsmen, so naturally, you would want to let loose. You can drink in moderation but never to inebriation. Stay classy and do not be the bridesmaid and wedding guest who drank herself to stupor (not only on the wedding day but the bachelorette party as well). Take note of the fact that bride chose you to be her bridesmaid because she wants you to be there should she need anything and you are hardly any use if you get wasted. Additionally, your behavior will reflect on the bride and if anything, you should not embarrass her.

4.) RESPECT THE BRIDE’S DECISIONS

If there is an aspect of the wedding which you do not wholeheartedly agree with, but the bride is enthusiastic about, bite your tongue and respect her wishes. You may have written and prepared a speech you dreamed of saying on her wedding day, but she did not ask you to give one. Accept that and try not voice out your complaints. You may have difficulty in understanding her reasoning, but it is her big day, and it is her decision. However, if you feel strongly about one of her choices, let her know in a respectful and open-minded manner and do not try to change her mind once she has made her decision. You would not want to cause unnecessary pre-wedding drama.

5.) BE A LISTENER

Sometimes, all the bride would need is a good listening ear. She could be under a lot of stress from all the wedding planning and would need to rant and vent for a while. Be that listening ear to her and offer your moral support. More often than not, that is all the bride would need. Continuously ask yourself how you could make the experience even better for the bride, and she will greatly thank you and appreciate your efforts.

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Advantages of Small Weddings

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Most little girls would not envision a small intimate affair when they dream about their weddings. They would dream of long ball gowns, towering cakes and being a princess for one more night and getting married to the man of their dreams. As girls transition to women, their collective vision of what their ideal wedding would be will greatly vary. Some would still retain the idea of having a lush and big wedding adorned with festoons of flowers. But there are also some women who would want their weddings as intimate as possible, celebrated only with close relatives and friends sans the hassle. So, for brides-to-be who are on the fence as to what kind of wedding they should have, here are some of the biggest advantages of small weddings that may convince you.

1.) SAVE MONEY

Undoubtedly, one of the greatest benefits of having a small wedding is the fact that it is friendlier to your budget. Considering you do not have a horde of guests to feed, you would not need to hire an army of caterers just to provide food for them or an extremely grand catering menu. Having a big wedding, on the contrary, would mean you would need to have a bigger budget. The logistics of planning a big wedding can be quite complicated, and the costs could really add up to a sum that can be quite daunting. Having a small but intimate wedding will be less the hassle, and less costly.

2.) MORE INTIMATE EXPERIENCE

Big weddings do not offer many avenues for coziness and an air of familiarity. More often than not, the newly-wedded couple would not even be able to fraternize with all of their guests for more than a couple of minutes so things may have the tendency to get a tad bit impersonal. Some of the guests may not even be personally acquainted with the couple and are invited as a date by one of the guests. Smaller weddings would compel you to pare down your wedding invite list and would allow you to invite the people who truly matter to you. This opportunity would make you contemplate on the people who you really want to celebrate this special occasion with you, and as a result, you would have a more intimate environment in celebrating your marriage.

3.) LESS STRESS

Having a small wedding can significantly reduce the wedding stress that is commonly associated with wedding planning. As the wedding is an intimate affair, there would be no need to hire too many vendors, nor a lot of caterers and essentially, everything is much simpler from the methods of dining down to the venue to be used. Considering you do not have to mull over a lot of extraneous aspects, you can enjoy planning your wedding without the rush or the pressure of having to ensure that everything is done right for a rather large number of party guests.

4.) A CHANCE TO GET AWAY

Considering that small weddings have a limited number of attendees, it would be an excellent choice for those who are contemplating of having a destination wedding. It would be easier to transport a small number of guests, and as a result, you would be able to organize this wedding party elsewhere much better. Essentially, with a limited number of people in attendance in a destination wedding, it would be like celebrating your union as well as getting a chance to experience a vacation with the closest people to you.

5.) AVOID GETTING OVERWHELMED

Anyone who has ever been married would tell you how easily overwhelming planning a wedding could be–no matter how beautiful and magical they may seem. This is true regardless of whether your wedding is big or small, but the chances of getting overwhelmed while planning an intimate wedding would be significantly less than that of a big one. This is because with simpler logistics involved, you would not have to be in constant worry of things going awry on your big day and you are less likely to worry about mingling with every single one of your guests. Having fewer guests would make you feel more relaxed and more connected to the moment of being married to the love of your life than having a big but otherwise, detached wedding ambiance.

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Brides Eyes Here: Secrets in Staying Comfortable All throughout Your Wedding Day!

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No one looks forward to a wedding day more than the bride herself. She has had the details streamlined at a very young age and has envisaged how she would look like walking down the aisle from the moment she witnessed her very first wedding day. It is precisely for this reason why there are so many articles online proffering tips and guides as to how a bride stays amazing throughout the entire course of her wedding–from that momentous walk down the aisle to her first dance with the groom.

However, when you have been beleaguered by your wedding plans for days, weighed down by your heavy wedding gown and full face makeup and a whole lot of hairspray, it can be quite a challenge to stay fabulous and comfortable as well. To guarantee you stay comfortable as you are beautiful, here are some of the most useful tips for your wedding day. These tips will allow you to enjoy your wedding day without having a worry about your hair, your dress or even your makeup.

1.) Refrain from squeezing yourself into too-tight shapewear

It is understandable for brides to desire to look like a runway model with a svelte and lithe figure on their wedding day. In fact, most brides-to-be would spend weeks and even months prior to their wedding on a strict diet regime and would squeeze themselves into tight shapewear as last minute attempt. But, it is never worth it. Undoubtedly, you would look sexy, but you will be in extreme discomfort as well. Eating would be a lot more challenging, and dancing would be close to impossible.

2.) Bring a wrap

Wedding venues are varied, but regardless of whether you chose an indoor or outdoor wedding venue, it is imperative that you bring a wrap with you. This is particularly the case if there is even a chance for a cool breeze or low temperatures. You would want to bundle up should a cold breeze occur and you would not want to be cold during picture taking. Choose an appropriate jacket or a wrap which would look great with your wedding dress.

3.) Save the lingerie for your wedding night

Wearing lingerie underneath the wedding dress might seem like a sultry idea, but it is not exactly the most comfortable way to spend your wedding day. After all the dancing and generally wearing them the entire day, there is going to be a big chance that your cute and sexy number underneath would look anything but that by the time the night is over. You would want to wear them while they are fresh and presentable, not when they have apparently been worn the entire day.

4.) Get some air

If you are having a summer wedding, the chances of it being incredibly humid and hot are going to be very high. Undoubtedly, a hot and stuffy weather outside and a big cumbersome wedding gown on you do not actually mix. To keep yourself cool, pack a tiny handheld fan which you can use to blow air on your legs under your dress, under your arms or face and so on when needed. An incredibly hot weather can easily turn an intricate gown into a walking oven.

5.) Bring a second pair of shoes

No matter how comfortable your shoes are, the chances of your wedding dance floor being wood are high and heels on wood do not really go well together. Within the first hour of dancing, it is guaranteed that your feet will hurt which would lessen the chances of you and your groom dancing the night away. Always bring a pair of emergency shoes with you such as a pair of flats or slippers even, so you can easily swap out your heels whenever your stressed feet would need a break.

 

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The Pros and Cons of Hiring a Wedding Planner

 

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Weddings are momentous occasions—the first milestone a couple celebrates in their lives. It symbolizes the beginning of the life of two very different individuals as a unified front. Though celebrating a wedding may sound like a fun affair, planning one can be anything but. It is for this reason that many couples would choose to have the services of a wedding coordinator as more often than not, they glue the entire event together to make it more seamless and sophisticated. In a way, they function as your go-to persons for whenever there is a particular aspect you want to be done in your wedding and they are pivotal persons on your wedding too—especially if a big wedding is what you have in mind.

However, some couples are of the opinion that hiring a person who lays out everything they have in mind for the wedding is extraneous and a bit exorbitant as well. Some think that they could sweat through the details, just ask for some professional opinions and just basically DIY their own wedding. Although it is practical, it is hardly advisable. There are plenty of upsides and downsides to hiring a wedding planner, but if you are having second thoughts about hiring one, then weigh your options as this article has narrowed down the pros and cons for you.

PROS

1.) They will sweat out the details

One crucial detail you have to remember when you are hiring a wedding planner is that they have planned a lot of weddings and are used to it while this may be your first. From this standpoint, they have an advantage. Consider the fact that they have planned events of this magnitude a lot of times before while your experience pales in comparison. Weddings also have a lot of details to take consideration of. It just does not stop at looking for an appropriate venue or the sort of décor you should use. These planners can gloss over all the details you might otherwise overlook. Additionally, they would make sure your budget is allocated well.

2.) They have an insider knowledge of the local market

As planners have already planned innumerable weddings before, it is only natural that they have likely worked with most of the venues and vendors in town before. Should you require a cinematic photographer for your wedding, you would not need to scour every nook and cranny of the city you are living in just to find one; your wedding planner already has a list of contacts. Additionally, your wedding planner already knows the rates of these vendors and will likely give you a comparison sheet on where you can spend the best bang for your buck.

3.) They will spend their time, not yours

One of the best thing about having a wedding planner is the convenience. You do not have to stay in constant contact with your other wedding vendors and chase down some of the more obscure details of your wedding. You are paying your wedding planner to do it for you.

CONS

1.) You have to relinquish some control

Hiring a wedding planner does not mean choosing an appropriate wedding venue and having a wide leverage on what transpires on your wedding. No, there are some aspects of your wedding that you may not be able to control.Admittedly, hiring a wedding planner means that you cannot leverage the entire wedding affair. There are some aspects which you must trust your wedding planner to handle. Should you be the type of person who would have difficulty in relinquishing a bit of control, this can be very hard for you. Find a good compromise by making sure you would hire a planner that is as meticulous about the details as you are and would value communication styles that are similar to yours.

2.) It is an additional cost

When it comes to choosing wedding vendors, wedding planners may save you some money as your wedding planner always have insider information. However, this is not always the case as you are paying for your wedding planner as well. In some cases, you would have to pay for their gas money in going to and fro places and their meals. If your budget can barely fit the services of a planner yet help is very much needed, consider hiring one with a customized service whose price you can likely afford.

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