4 Signs You Shouldn’t Be in A Wedding

Other people enjoy weddings. They marvel at the magic of the wedding vows and the solemnity of the affair. The feminine touches of the decorations and the well-coordinated theme are something that people look forward to seeing.

Unfortunately, not all people have a romantic bone in their body. These are the people who secretly hate other people just because they exist. They are not exactly the life of the party. But they are going to the wedding because of their love for the couple.

If you find yourself connecting to five of these signs, then you definitely shouldn’t be at a wedding.

  1. You judge everyone’s clothes.

It’s human nature to judge and comment on other’s people attire and sense of fashion. But if you’re endlessly doing it to entertain and keep yourself from sleeping, then you shouldn’t be there in the first place. The long speeches absolutely bore you to death. The corny jokes also make you wish the ground would swallow you alive.

  1. You would rather spend the day at the mall.

There are so many things you would rather do than witness the “first” kiss of the couple. You prefer to walk around the mall at Vertis North. You feel happier spending your hard-earned cash shopping for new clothes than wearing a drabby suit or ugly wedding dress. Heck, you would prefer snuggling with your furry friend rather than giving air kisses to the people that aren’t even your friends.

  1. You aren’t a fan of people, dancing, and well-wishes.

Just thinking of the people you have to meet annoys you especially if it’s your job to greet and usher them to their seats. It doesn’t help when there are rude guests or people with an attitude are difficult to handle. Then, there’s the dancing you need to prepare. People will call you a party pooper when you’re the only person seated once the DJ starts playing the tunes.

Most of all, there are speeches and well-wishes. Mothers, bridesmaids and a bunch of highly-sensitive people start to cry during the wedding vows and the long speeches. People need to chill out. It’s justs words.

  1. You hate photo ops.

Besides the shots from the official photographer, there are groufies and selfies to take. Isn’t one photo enough? Your face is aching from all the smiling and laughing. Moreover, your feet are tired. Some of your muscles are aching from bending so the camera can get a better angle. Lastly, you need to put makeup or fix your hair so you won’t look out of place.

  1. You always go for seconds, or you go to a drive-thru to get your fill.

Attending a wedding means free food, but that doesn’t mean you can get a full tank. Since the couple has to budget and make sure everyone gets their fill, the meals are controlled. They can be plated for you, or some servers will place the food on your plate. Besides the small portions, the menu may be composed of food unfamiliar to you or aren’t your cup of tea. Hence, you end up ordering a fast food meal right after the party.

Even without these signs, you would rather let the occasion pass than sit and watch the spectacle. You would rather sit one out for the team than be in front of the action. But after all these things, you would still be around to support a family member, friend and loved one on their special day.

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Beautiful Weddings: Five Signs You Have Found the Perfect Wedding Gown

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“Just go in and try things on…things you may even think you would never wear in your life. Give yourself that freedom” –Vera Wang.

 

Finding the perfect wedding gown is about as difficult as finding the one special person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Indeed, the endeavor involves a lot of considerations and decisions to make and may even be fraught with complications—such as the ideal dress not making a particular church’s dress code. On top of that, you have a myriad of options to choose from which makes the entire process all the more challenging. There are limitless designs from ball gowns to bias-cut gowns that choosing one might seem like an impossibility. However, there are ways of narrowing the search and knowing if the dress you are trying on is “the one” for you.

Here are several of those tell-tale signs:

1.) You do not want to take it off

An excellent cardinal sign of your ideal gown is that once you have donned it on and observed yourself in the mirror, you do not want to take it off. While trying on wedding dresses makes you appreciate each gown’s beauty in their own way, there is just something about one particular gown that sets it apart from the others in a sense that you cannot wait to picture yourself with it. In fact, you cannot wait how it would look with the full ensemble—veil, flowers, hair, makeup, shoes, and accessories—on.

2.) The tears start flowing

Putting on the perfect gown gives you that overwhelming feeling of euphoric excitement. In fact, the feeling it gives you is pretty close to the sense of elation you felt when you said “Yes!” to marrying your husband to be. If you feel yourself tearing up when trying on the dress, then it is the ideal gown for you. However, if you are not much of a crier, if any of your family members or friends would shed a few tears upon seeing you (or even the stylist himself or herself), then that is a good sign.

3.) You truly feel like a bride

Yes, you have the ring, the date, and the fiancé but from where you are standing, the wedding seems ages away and seems like a vague concept to you until you have a particular wedding gown on. Putting on the right wedding gown would not only give you a sense of jubilation, but it would also give you that realization that you really are getting married and that this is going to be it.

4.) You start using superlatives

Of course, every gown is beautiful in its own way, but the perfect gown for you would be so incredibly gorgeous to you that you would only be using superlatives when describing it. If you suddenly catch yourself proclaiming things such as “the most beautiful gown in the world” or “the best gown I have ever laid my eyes on,” then you have probably found your second soulmate.

5.) You do not want to try any other dresses on

The gown you have tried on might be the first or fifth or even the twenty-eighth gown you have worn for that day, but once you have worn it, you suddenly feel like no other gown compares. In fact, you are just about ready to cancel all the other dress or fitting appointments you have made as you have found the dress of your dreams. To you, there is simply no other dress the world can offer that is just as beautiful and as stunning as the one that you have on you. In this regard, you can safely say that the search for the perfect gown is over.

 

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Wedding Planning: Four Things Your Wedding Planner Does Not Want You to Know

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“Weddings are not about spending the least amount of money or the most amount of money; they are about spending good money on the elements that are most important to you and your partner.”-Kristi Richardson

Wedding planning is, no doubt, a process littered with tricky situations and peppered with crucial decision-making scenarios. Indeed, the logistics are never quite straightforward nor are they always the same. To be successful in this endeavor, many brides-to-be would elect to seek professional help in the form of wedding planners. Wedding planners, for their part, have a particular expertise and flair in pulling weddings together. In this regard, they can be considered somewhat of a pro in planning weddings and are incredibly helpful in planning out the nitty-gritty details of a wedding. As a result, the bride can breathe and relax on her big day and would not be more stressed and anxious than she already is.

Choosing a talented and skillful wedding planner is not easy, and it is best to approach this attempt with your eyes wide open. While some wedding planners opt to be as transparent as they can be with their clients, there are less scrupulous planners who would rather keep essential details from you. In any case, here are some things that your wedding planner would not want you to know to determine whether what they kept from you is for your own good or for their bank book.

1.) Something will go wrong

With so many elements and aspects involved in a wedding, it is virtually impossible to pull it off flawlessly. In this regard, it would be inevitable that something would not go according to plan—no matter how meticulously you have planned their entire thing and regardless of how adept your planner might be. However, not all snags are major, and you can hope that it would be something insignificant such as the groom’s tie or something negligible. Similarly, you should also put into mind that there are no perfect weddings, just beautiful ones.

2.) Some of the vendors are probably her chums

Established wedding planners would already have a list of vendors they prefer to work with. If you wish to work with other vendors, it is best to stipulate this before you sign any contract. By choosing your own vendors, you can often get a better deal and quality—you would just need to do a little research and price comparison first. Seasoned and established planners would refer esteemed vendors—after all, a planner’s reputation would also be on the line. However, some planners might refer less qualified vendors who are still trying to build their reputations in the industry. With this in mind, it is best to consider a wedding planner who encourages you to keep your options open.

3.) They might not be as qualified as you think

Majority of wedding planners are already experienced in the field and have already developed an expertise in handling weddings. However, there are also handfuls few who are still trying to break ground in the industry. With this in consideration, how do you determine which one is which? After all, becoming a wedding planner does not require a license nor are any permits necessary. In this regard, it is best for brides to check with multiple references and review their past work samples. After all, some unsavory wedding planners are known for inflating their qualifications just to be hired.

4.) You can probably do it on your own

Some brides already possess the talent and flair for planning a wedding. In fact, it might be a second calling of all sorts and may even be considered as an avenue for showing off your budgeting skills and flawless taste. However, with stress and anxiety on top of the planning process, a bride may want to take a breather and let a wedding planner handle it all. But if you think you can pull it off on your own, you can save some cash and have a wedding that truly reflects who you and your husband are as a couple.

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Wedding Daze: Motivational Quotes to Keep You Going During Your Big Day

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“The real act of marriage takes place in the heart, not in the ballroom or church or synagogue. It is a choice you make—not just on your wedding day, but over and over again—and that choice is reflected in the way you treat your husband or wife. –Barbara De Angelis

Without a doubt, planning a wedding can be an incredibly exhausting experience. There are just so many aspects, and elements consider that more often than not, the logistics of holding a successful one would be blurred. In fact, you might feel the excitement building up months, weeks and even days to your wedding—only to be stifled by the amount of stress and anxiety you are going through. Not to fret, however, experiencing a reasonable amount of stress and anxiety is normal—recommended even, so long as you can keep a good handle on it. After all, your wedding day may be the most pivotal moment in your life, and in this regard, you and your spouse would be the center of attention for the entire duration of the day. Considering that most eyes will be on you on top of the pre-wedding stress you will inevitably encounter, it is understandable to feel a bit shy and uneasy.

To ensure you keep on going through your day, here are some of the best motivational wedding quotes as regards love, unions, and marriages. Read them before you make your way down the aisle to give you that much-needed confidence-boost.

1.) On uncertainty

“Love is the master key that opens the gates of happiness, of hatred, of jealousy, and most easily of all, the gate of fear.”-Oliver Wendell Holmes Sr.

2.) On falling in love

“There is a big difference between falling in love with someone and getting married. Usually, after you get married, you fall in love with the person more.”-Dave Grohl

3.) On loving your spouse

“To love someone deeply gives you strength. Being loved by someone deeply gives you courage.”-Chinese Philosopher, Lao Tsu

4.) On commitment

“There is a higher form of happiness in commitment. I am counting on it.”-Claire Forlani

5.) On getting real with marriage

“In marriage, there are no manners to keep up and beneath the wildest accusations, no real criticism. Each is familiar with that ancient child in the other who may erupt again. We are not ridiculous to ourselves. We are ageless. That is the luxury of the wedding ring.”-Enid Bagnold

6.) On happiness after marriage

“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love, and they blossom when we love the ones we marry”-Tom Mullen

7.) On finding the ultimate happiness in marriage

“To find someone who will love you for no reason and to shower that person with reasons, that is the ultimate happiness.”-Robert Brault

8.) On possibilities

“Weddings are important because they celebrate life and possibility.”

9.) On being in love

“You know you are in love when you cannot fall asleep at night because the reality is finally better than your dreams.”-Dr. Seuss

10.) On getting real about love

“Love is a promise; love is a souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it disappear.”-John Lennon

11.) On the effect of marriage

“Getting married for me, was the best thing I ever did. I was suddenly beset with an immense sense of release, that we have something more important than our separate selves, and that is the marriage. There is happiness that can come from working towards that.”-Nick Cave

12.) On who you should marry

“You do not marry someone you can live with—you marry the person who you cannot live without.”-Unknown

If ever you feel jittery and have qualms right before your wedding day, let these quotes serve as your beacons of enlightenment and allow them to give you that extra nudge of encouragement for your big day.

 

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Tying the Knot? Here are Five Ingenious Tips to Read Before Buying Your Wedding Gown

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“On her wedding day, a woman should be certain she has found a dress that makes her feel confident and above all else, beautiful.”-Carolina Herrera

On any wedding day, all eyes will be on the bride as she makes her graceful walk down the aisle. With this in mind, it is only appropriate that a bride-to-be should be most meticulous and particular about the type of gown she wears on her big day. After all, a wedding gown is not only a dress a bride wears on her wedding day and selecting one is more than just a fitting, it is a memory in the making. For most women, a wedding gown could be the single most important dress they would ever wear in their lives–one that transcends all other garments she has and would ever have. So, if you are ready to hit the bridal shop, here are some tips to keep in mind to ensure you choose the wedding gown that suits you best:

1.) Have a price in mind

We all have our ideal gowns in mind, but at times the gown we dreamed of walking down the aisle in can be out of our price range. If this is the case, do not waste your time browsing that rack or even entertain the thought of buying it outright. Remember, you are not only spending for your wedding gown on your big day but on other aspects as well. Keep in mind; a dress budget does not only entail the gown itself but the cost of alterations, taxes, veil, shoes, lingerie, and jewelry. So, keep a realistic price in mind and stick to that.

2.) Start Early

Look for a wedding gown or dress at least six to eight months prior to your wedding day. But if you tend to be indecisive or are a picky shopper then add a couple of months more to that. Take note: a custom gown takes longer to make than the ones you can find off the rack—especially when they are heavily embellished. So, choose while it is still early as if you put it off for too long, you would either end up with a limited selection or make a quick purchase you might regret later.

3.) Consider the Dress Code

If you are getting married in a church, there might be religious restrictions you have to follow on what kind of wedding gown or dress you can wear. Consider these attire guidelines and make sure that you adhere to them in selecting a gown. After all, you would not want too many alterations on your gown should it not be allowed or worse, be asked to cover up as you walk down the aisle.

4.) Know What You Like

Your wedding gown or dress should be a reflection of you and your preference. If you have no idea what you truly want in a gown, you can start by perusing wedding gowns on the web and find one whose style resonates your own. Similarly, you can also take cues from your venue, theme and season of the day you are getting married to narrow down your choices. Eliminate silhouettes and fabrics that would look out of place in a venue such as poufy and bulky gowns in beach affairs as an example.

5.) Bring Your Accessories

Before your wedding day, it would be ideal if you had a rough idea of how you are going to look like when you walk down the aisle. While saving the full impact as a surprise on the day itself is done by most brides, this does not mean you should dismiss trying on the gown with your accessories either. You may opt to wear the gown sans your full bridal makeup when you are still trying it on, but it would be a good idea to know how it would look with the rest of your bridal ensemble such as the veil, the shoes, and the appropriate undergarments.

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Weddings Sins That Will Make Your Lola Gasp

It’s 2017, and it seems we forgot our values and traditions of weddings. Millenials have embraced the liberated culture of the West and have forgotten local traditions that are unique to Filipino culture. Thus, you may be guilty of committing wedding sins even when you aren’t aware. 

Read on to find which of the forgotten traditions will save your Lola from the heartache even if you are getting married in Intramuros – Casa Manila style.

 

Placing The Groom’s Name Before the Bride in Invitations

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The bride and her parents’ name should be written first. They are the host and share a large portion of the expenses. 

Your Lola and titas will agree to this because they’ve been through it. They definitely understand the delegation of responsibilities. Therefore it is tradition to have hers before the groom’s and his parents’ name on the invitations.

Thank you letters should print the groom’s name and his family before the bride’s name to show their support and acceptance to the ceremony and its proceedings.

 

The Bride Coming Before the Groom

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Ladies come first, but this isn’t one of those times. It’s bad luck for the groom to arrive after the bride. This is a grave sin for both couples, so be wary on your big day. 

Coordinate with each party and find a way to communicate if your partner is on his or her way. Be mindful of the time during preparation. Oversee any hindrance that may come along the way, be it traffic jam, a car breaking down, weather changes, broken zipper, lost pair of shoe or worse, a lost wedding ring.

 

 

The Bride Wearing a Pearl Jewelry

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It’s not pearl but look at what happened to Ariel because of the necklace.

As much as possible, pearl fanatics are discouraged from donning their prized accessories. Pearls resemble teardrops, and it is said that wearing pearl accessories will bring you tears. Unfortunately, they aren’t tears of joy.

Avoid wearing a string of pearls or pearl earrings on your wedding day. Doing so will bring sorrow and tears to your married life. Spare yourself and your future family from despair by following the tradition. Don’t come running to abuela, we warned you.

Like all events, there’s proper etiquette for guests. This case, the proper decorum also stems from our culture and traditions. Read this in case you get invited to someone’s big day.

 

Giving Sharp Objects as Gifts

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Give appropriate gifts. Remember when she thought forks were used for combing hair?

It may be tempting to give a set of knives to your BFF chef getting hitched this weekend, but doing so will bring bad luck. 

Sharp objects like scissors and gardening tools are home essentials, but there are other home necessities like appliances, pieces of furniture and home décor that are better given as presents to the newlyweds. They will greatly appreciate the gesture even if it’s not in the registry.

Giving a set of knives is also creepy, don’t you think?

 

Dress Code

The bride should be the most beautiful woman on her day. The groom is the most handsome man in the room. Not you nor your date

A wedding is a formal event, so dress accordingly. Some weddings have a theme indicated on the invite. Hence, respect the couple’s wishes what attire should be worn.

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Avoid stealing the spotlight and earning an eyeful from the elders by wearing skimpy dresses. Opt for modest clothing options. Don’t wear revealing, skin-tight dresses or short-sleeved casual attire. Polish your black shoes and style your hair to look clean and presentable. The guests’ appearance reflects the bride’s or the groom’s personality and any undesirable traits will reflect negatively to the in-laws.

 

Party Pooping

A wedding is also a celebration – feast of life, love, and unity. Don’t be a spoil sport by refusing to partake in the games and festivities. You’ll be putting down the energy and the mood of the couple. The goal is to attract positive and boundless energy for them. Do not be the cause to negate them.

These are some of the customs and traditions that are not observed by couples during their matrimonial rites. Guests also have to look out for these practices and make sure they follow the practices when gracing the event with their presence. If you want a refresher on other practices that are a must, head on to Casa Manila Museum. It features the lifestyle of elite Filipinos, who were conscious of social etiquettes and graces. It’s great place be purified and instill the traditions in yourself. Lola will be so proud.

Weddings 101: Five Things Your Wedding Guests Don’t Care About

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“A gloomy guest fits not a wedding feast” –Friedrich Schiller
Wedding planning can be incredibly stressful—there are just a lot of things to take into consideration. A good wedding package in the Philippines, the wedding venue, the catering, the wedding decorations—these are just a fraction of what wedding planning truly is in its entirety. Another thing that would add to the list of what you have to consider is how receptive your guests will be to some aspects in your wedding. While this is an excellent mindset for couples who want to commemorate a joyous event with their guests’ best interests at heart, you would be surprised to find that there are a lot of things that guests do not really care about. Perhaps if you knew what these things were, you would not be as keen and meticulous in executing them well and devote more of your time to planning the other aspects of your wedding. Furthermore, if you worried less about this stuff, then you can take away a bit of what is stressing you out.

Here are just a few things your guests do not care about and you probably should not spend a lot of time fussing over:

  1. Wedding Invitations

In this digital age, more and more couples are opting to go paperless when it comes to their wedding invitations. Not only is it nature-friendly and green, but it is economic and practical as well and yet, a lot of couples have this staunch belief that their invitations should be an elaborate presentation of what their wedding guests can expect. While it might be a brief prelude and introduction of what your guests can expect, it barely makes an impression and would likely end up in the waste bin after your wedding.

  1. The Guest Book

Most guests cannot really be bothered to just jot down their names on a huge guest book just to confirm they have indeed attended your wedding. So, instead of having them sign something that is akin to a roll call once they are done, incorporate a little creativity on what would have been a dull book. Plaster your photo on a large piece of paper and have guests write their wedding wishes for you on it. You can then have it framed after the wedding and you and your spouse can have a grand time reading about what your guests wish for you.

  1. The Flowers

Flowers are an important aspect and beautiful floral arrangements are always a welcome addition to your chosen wedding venue. Flowers are also a way of incorporating your personal style into a space. However, there is such a thing as floral arrangements being too extravagant. Those exorbitantly priced golden roses might look stunning, but it is hardly practical and not one of your guests would probably look back on your wedding day and remember the ostentatious display of floral wreaths. Your guests will appreciate the floral arrangements you have chosen—regardless of how much you have spent for them.

  1. The Dress

While this is more for yourself than your guests, there is really no practical reason to blow your bridal budget on a fancy dress that you are going to wear just once and never again. You can look just as stunning in a more affordable gown provided you know how to carry yourself in it. After all, it is not always about the price of the gown but rather how you bring yourself confidently in it. So, even if your wedding gown is sans the designer label, your guests are still sure to think you are a beautiful bride.

  1. The Cake

Wedding cakes are excellent, but apart from using it for the cake-slicing portion of the program there is really not much use for it as most couples opt to serve a different cake to their guests. While towering and meticulously detailed wedding cakes make for a great addition to your wedding reception, your guests would not miss it. Instead, you can opt to have a cake that is within your budget and which tastes great as well—and one you can serve to your guests as well.

 

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