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Weddings Sins That Will Make Your Lola Gasp

It’s 2017, and it seems we forgot our values and traditions of weddings. Millenials have embraced the liberated culture of the West and have forgotten local traditions that are unique to Filipino culture. Thus, you may be guilty of committing wedding sins even when you aren’t aware. 

Read on to find which of the forgotten traditions will save your Lola from the heartache even if you are getting married in Intramuros – Casa Manila style.

 

Placing The Groom’s Name Before the Bride in Invitations

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The bride and her parents’ name should be written first. They are the host and share a large portion of the expenses. 

Your Lola and titas will agree to this because they’ve been through it. They definitely understand the delegation of responsibilities. Therefore it is tradition to have hers before the groom’s and his parents’ name on the invitations.

Thank you letters should print the groom’s name and his family before the bride’s name to show their support and acceptance to the ceremony and its proceedings.

 

The Bride Coming Before the Groom

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Ladies come first, but this isn’t one of those times. It’s bad luck for the groom to arrive after the bride. This is a grave sin for both couples, so be wary on your big day. 

Coordinate with each party and find a way to communicate if your partner is on his or her way. Be mindful of the time during preparation. Oversee any hindrance that may come along the way, be it traffic jam, a car breaking down, weather changes, broken zipper, lost pair of shoe or worse, a lost wedding ring.

 

 

The Bride Wearing a Pearl Jewelry

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It’s not pearl but look at what happened to Ariel because of the necklace.

As much as possible, pearl fanatics are discouraged from donning their prized accessories. Pearls resemble teardrops, and it is said that wearing pearl accessories will bring you tears. Unfortunately, they aren’t tears of joy.

Avoid wearing a string of pearls or pearl earrings on your wedding day. Doing so will bring sorrow and tears to your married life. Spare yourself and your future family from despair by following the tradition. Don’t come running to abuela, we warned you.

Like all events, there’s proper etiquette for guests. This case, the proper decorum also stems from our culture and traditions. Read this in case you get invited to someone’s big day.

 

Giving Sharp Objects as Gifts

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Give appropriate gifts. Remember when she thought forks were used for combing hair?

It may be tempting to give a set of knives to your BFF chef getting hitched this weekend, but doing so will bring bad luck. 

Sharp objects like scissors and gardening tools are home essentials, but there are other home necessities like appliances, pieces of furniture and home décor that are better given as presents to the newlyweds. They will greatly appreciate the gesture even if it’s not in the registry.

Giving a set of knives is also creepy, don’t you think?

 

Dress Code

The bride should be the most beautiful woman on her day. The groom is the most handsome man in the room. Not you nor your date

A wedding is a formal event, so dress accordingly. Some weddings have a theme indicated on the invite. Hence, respect the couple’s wishes what attire should be worn.

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Avoid stealing the spotlight and earning an eyeful from the elders by wearing skimpy dresses. Opt for modest clothing options. Don’t wear revealing, skin-tight dresses or short-sleeved casual attire. Polish your black shoes and style your hair to look clean and presentable. The guests’ appearance reflects the bride’s or the groom’s personality and any undesirable traits will reflect negatively to the in-laws.

 

Party Pooping

A wedding is also a celebration – feast of life, love, and unity. Don’t be a spoil sport by refusing to partake in the games and festivities. You’ll be putting down the energy and the mood of the couple. The goal is to attract positive and boundless energy for them. Do not be the cause to negate them.

These are some of the customs and traditions that are not observed by couples during their matrimonial rites. Guests also have to look out for these practices and make sure they follow the practices when gracing the event with their presence. If you want a refresher on other practices that are a must, head on to Casa Manila Museum. It features the lifestyle of elite Filipinos, who were conscious of social etiquettes and graces. It’s great place be purified and instill the traditions in yourself. Lola will be so proud.

Weddings 101: Five Things Your Wedding Guests Don’t Care About

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“A gloomy guest fits not a wedding feast” –Friedrich Schiller
Wedding planning can be incredibly stressful—there are just a lot of things to take into consideration. A good wedding package in the Philippines, the wedding venue, the catering, the wedding decorations—these are just a fraction of what wedding planning truly is in its entirety. Another thing that would add to the list of what you have to consider is how receptive your guests will be to some aspects in your wedding. While this is an excellent mindset for couples who want to commemorate a joyous event with their guests’ best interests at heart, you would be surprised to find that there are a lot of things that guests do not really care about. Perhaps if you knew what these things were, you would not be as keen and meticulous in executing them well and devote more of your time to planning the other aspects of your wedding. Furthermore, if you worried less about this stuff, then you can take away a bit of what is stressing you out.

Here are just a few things your guests do not care about and you probably should not spend a lot of time fussing over:

  1. Wedding Invitations

In this digital age, more and more couples are opting to go paperless when it comes to their wedding invitations. Not only is it nature-friendly and green, but it is economic and practical as well and yet, a lot of couples have this staunch belief that their invitations should be an elaborate presentation of what their wedding guests can expect. While it might be a brief prelude and introduction of what your guests can expect, it barely makes an impression and would likely end up in the waste bin after your wedding.

  1. The Guest Book

Most guests cannot really be bothered to just jot down their names on a huge guest book just to confirm they have indeed attended your wedding. So, instead of having them sign something that is akin to a roll call once they are done, incorporate a little creativity on what would have been a dull book. Plaster your photo on a large piece of paper and have guests write their wedding wishes for you on it. You can then have it framed after the wedding and you and your spouse can have a grand time reading about what your guests wish for you.

  1. The Flowers

Flowers are an important aspect and beautiful floral arrangements are always a welcome addition to your chosen wedding venue. Flowers are also a way of incorporating your personal style into a space. However, there is such a thing as floral arrangements being too extravagant. Those exorbitantly priced golden roses might look stunning, but it is hardly practical and not one of your guests would probably look back on your wedding day and remember the ostentatious display of floral wreaths. Your guests will appreciate the floral arrangements you have chosen—regardless of how much you have spent for them.

  1. The Dress

While this is more for yourself than your guests, there is really no practical reason to blow your bridal budget on a fancy dress that you are going to wear just once and never again. You can look just as stunning in a more affordable gown provided you know how to carry yourself in it. After all, it is not always about the price of the gown but rather how you bring yourself confidently in it. So, even if your wedding gown is sans the designer label, your guests are still sure to think you are a beautiful bride.

  1. The Cake

Wedding cakes are excellent, but apart from using it for the cake-slicing portion of the program there is really not much use for it as most couples opt to serve a different cake to their guests. While towering and meticulously detailed wedding cakes make for a great addition to your wedding reception, your guests would not miss it. Instead, you can opt to have a cake that is within your budget and which tastes great as well—and one you can serve to your guests as well.

 

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7 Dreaded Mistakes to Avoid When Sending Save-the-Dates

Some brides-to-be may ask ‘do we need to send save-the-dates?’ Yes, you should especially if you want them to block their schedules on your chosen day to be there on your wedding day. Without a save-the-date card, how will you tell them the wedding will be in Santuario de San Antonio on July 22, 2015, 3pm? Would you rather hear your friends tell you ‘Oh we have to skip your wedding because of the Paris trip we planned months ago.’ Heartbreaking, isn’t it?

Now that you’ve finally decided to send save-the-dates, avoid these grisly mistakes.

1) Sending too late

The rule of thumb when sending save-the-date is the earlier, the better. Early notifications will guide your guests as to when they should file their vacation leaves earlier and arrange their travel plans and accommodations.  Wedding experts say that the best time to send save-the-date cards is 5 to 6 months before the wedding day. That’s the safest time allowance whether the wedding will be a local or destination wedding.

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2) Failing to personalize

Not because they are just save-the-dates, you will send just about anything that comes to your mind. It would better to send save-the-date cards that fit your chosen theme wedding. Look for inspiration online. Remember that the save-the-date is your guests’ first glimpse of your wedding. Build the excitement by teasing them with the design of your save-the-date card.

3) Failing to identify who is invited exactly

Don’t forget to write the names of the recipients; they will surely appreciate that you took the time putting or printing their names on the envelope or the card itself. Drop the ‘Surname and Family,’ and be specific with names. Be clear on who you are inviting.  At this stage, you may tell your guests if your wedding will be an ‘Adults Only’ event. With this, they can arrange for babysitting early on and not skip your wedding because they cannot leave their tots behind.

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4) Failing to include location details

Possibly, decide on the location first before sending your save-the-dates. Remember that your guests need to get a leg-up in planning accordingly especially if your wedding will be a destination wedding. People will assume that you will marry somewhere near your place, but this is not always true, right? There is no need to include unnecessary details such as registry info and directions.

5) Failing to include other important wedding details

Include the type of celebration, that is if the wedding is a weekday or weekend wedding and if it will be a morning, afternoon or evening wedding. If you’ve created your own wedding website, include the URL in the save-the-date. Your website will become handy in case your guests want to know about the other details of your wedding such as timeframes and pre-, during and post-wedding activities, among others.

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6) Sending save-the-dates but not invitations

Those people who receive the save-the-date cards must also receive the invites. You cannot un-invite those who receive the save-the-dates.  With this, make sure that your guest list is already settled before you send the cards. Bottom-line, don’t send the cards to anyone who you are not certain regarding inviting. If the person you sent the save-the-date to had initially declined, you still need to send him or her the invitation. Plans change, and he or she might have already regretted saying no in the first place.

7) Including response cards

Response cards or RSVP cards are for invitations only and not for save-the-dates. Save-the-date cards are for announcement purposes only. So, don’t bother asking for feedbacks just yet. Optionally, you may put the phrase ‘Invitation to Follow’ to avoid confusion.

Save-the-dates are the perfect way of pre-announcing that you are about to face a life of wedded bliss. However, you don’t send a save-the-date haphazardly; there are basic etiquettes to live by and mistakes to avoid. Hope the above information will help you in creating and sending your cards.

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