4 Signs You Shouldn’t Be in A Wedding

Other people enjoy weddings. They marvel at the magic of the wedding vows and the solemnity of the affair. The feminine touches of the decorations and the well-coordinated theme are something that people look forward to seeing.

Unfortunately, not all people have a romantic bone in their body. These are the people who secretly hate other people just because they exist. They are not exactly the life of the party. But they are going to the wedding because of their love for the couple.

If you find yourself connecting to five of these signs, then you definitely shouldn’t be at a wedding.

  1. You judge everyone’s clothes.

It’s human nature to judge and comment on other’s people attire and sense of fashion. But if you’re endlessly doing it to entertain and keep yourself from sleeping, then you shouldn’t be there in the first place. The long speeches absolutely bore you to death. The corny jokes also make you wish the ground would swallow you alive.

  1. You would rather spend the day at the mall.

There are so many things you would rather do than witness the “first” kiss of the couple. You prefer to walk around the mall at Vertis North. You feel happier spending your hard-earned cash shopping for new clothes than wearing a drabby suit or ugly wedding dress. Heck, you would prefer snuggling with your furry friend rather than giving air kisses to the people that aren’t even your friends.

  1. You aren’t a fan of people, dancing, and well-wishes.

Just thinking of the people you have to meet annoys you especially if it’s your job to greet and usher them to their seats. It doesn’t help when there are rude guests or people with an attitude are difficult to handle. Then, there’s the dancing you need to prepare. People will call you a party pooper when you’re the only person seated once the DJ starts playing the tunes.

Most of all, there are speeches and well-wishes. Mothers, bridesmaids and a bunch of highly-sensitive people start to cry during the wedding vows and the long speeches. People need to chill out. It’s justs words.

  1. You hate photo ops.

Besides the shots from the official photographer, there are groufies and selfies to take. Isn’t one photo enough? Your face is aching from all the smiling and laughing. Moreover, your feet are tired. Some of your muscles are aching from bending so the camera can get a better angle. Lastly, you need to put makeup or fix your hair so you won’t look out of place.

  1. You always go for seconds, or you go to a drive-thru to get your fill.

Attending a wedding means free food, but that doesn’t mean you can get a full tank. Since the couple has to budget and make sure everyone gets their fill, the meals are controlled. They can be plated for you, or some servers will place the food on your plate. Besides the small portions, the menu may be composed of food unfamiliar to you or aren’t your cup of tea. Hence, you end up ordering a fast food meal right after the party.

Even without these signs, you would rather let the occasion pass than sit and watch the spectacle. You would rather sit one out for the team than be in front of the action. But after all these things, you would still be around to support a family member, friend and loved one on their special day.

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Weddings Sins That Will Make Your Lola Gasp

It’s 2017, and it seems we forgot our values and traditions of weddings. Millenials have embraced the liberated culture of the West and have forgotten local traditions that are unique to Filipino culture. Thus, you may be guilty of committing wedding sins even when you aren’t aware. 

Read on to find which of the forgotten traditions will save your Lola from the heartache even if you are getting married in Intramuros – Casa Manila style.

 

Placing The Groom’s Name Before the Bride in Invitations

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The bride and her parents’ name should be written first. They are the host and share a large portion of the expenses. 

Your Lola and titas will agree to this because they’ve been through it. They definitely understand the delegation of responsibilities. Therefore it is tradition to have hers before the groom’s and his parents’ name on the invitations.

Thank you letters should print the groom’s name and his family before the bride’s name to show their support and acceptance to the ceremony and its proceedings.

 

The Bride Coming Before the Groom

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Ladies come first, but this isn’t one of those times. It’s bad luck for the groom to arrive after the bride. This is a grave sin for both couples, so be wary on your big day. 

Coordinate with each party and find a way to communicate if your partner is on his or her way. Be mindful of the time during preparation. Oversee any hindrance that may come along the way, be it traffic jam, a car breaking down, weather changes, broken zipper, lost pair of shoe or worse, a lost wedding ring.

 

 

The Bride Wearing a Pearl Jewelry

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It’s not pearl but look at what happened to Ariel because of the necklace.

As much as possible, pearl fanatics are discouraged from donning their prized accessories. Pearls resemble teardrops, and it is said that wearing pearl accessories will bring you tears. Unfortunately, they aren’t tears of joy.

Avoid wearing a string of pearls or pearl earrings on your wedding day. Doing so will bring sorrow and tears to your married life. Spare yourself and your future family from despair by following the tradition. Don’t come running to abuela, we warned you.

Like all events, there’s proper etiquette for guests. This case, the proper decorum also stems from our culture and traditions. Read this in case you get invited to someone’s big day.

 

Giving Sharp Objects as Gifts

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Give appropriate gifts. Remember when she thought forks were used for combing hair?

It may be tempting to give a set of knives to your BFF chef getting hitched this weekend, but doing so will bring bad luck. 

Sharp objects like scissors and gardening tools are home essentials, but there are other home necessities like appliances, pieces of furniture and home décor that are better given as presents to the newlyweds. They will greatly appreciate the gesture even if it’s not in the registry.

Giving a set of knives is also creepy, don’t you think?

 

Dress Code

The bride should be the most beautiful woman on her day. The groom is the most handsome man in the room. Not you nor your date

A wedding is a formal event, so dress accordingly. Some weddings have a theme indicated on the invite. Hence, respect the couple’s wishes what attire should be worn.

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Avoid stealing the spotlight and earning an eyeful from the elders by wearing skimpy dresses. Opt for modest clothing options. Don’t wear revealing, skin-tight dresses or short-sleeved casual attire. Polish your black shoes and style your hair to look clean and presentable. The guests’ appearance reflects the bride’s or the groom’s personality and any undesirable traits will reflect negatively to the in-laws.

 

Party Pooping

A wedding is also a celebration – feast of life, love, and unity. Don’t be a spoil sport by refusing to partake in the games and festivities. You’ll be putting down the energy and the mood of the couple. The goal is to attract positive and boundless energy for them. Do not be the cause to negate them.

These are some of the customs and traditions that are not observed by couples during their matrimonial rites. Guests also have to look out for these practices and make sure they follow the practices when gracing the event with their presence. If you want a refresher on other practices that are a must, head on to Casa Manila Museum. It features the lifestyle of elite Filipinos, who were conscious of social etiquettes and graces. It’s great place be purified and instill the traditions in yourself. Lola will be so proud.

Wedding Guest Etiquette: The Five Do’s of being a Wedding Guest

You have received the invitation and it tells you the save a particular date. You are quite excited about the prospect of being all dolled up for this occasion and could not help but feel a little giddy as you are certain you are to be stringing along your date. In your anticipation about the prospect of being surrounded in well-dressed guests and your excitement in frolicking about in the bar sipping on cocktails while perusing the fashion choice of the bride, you neglect to RSVP to the wedding invitation.

With that alone you have committed and are about to commit quite a number of wedding guest faux pas. The wedding day might be all about the bride and her big day, but that does not necessarily connote that all proper means of demeanor, conduct and etiquette are centered on her. As a guest, there is a certain set of rules that you should abide by should you want to bride and groom feel at ease that they have invited you to commemorate their happiest day.

Some rules are pretty straightforward and are pretty much expected of a wedding guest (do not get embarrassingly inebriated, do not ask the couple for any favors, etc.) but there are some rules that are often overlooked and disregarded. This article shall be your purveyor to the wedding guest DO’s, so that come wedding day, you will be a stellar guest of the affianced couple.

DO’s

1.)    RSVP

Pretty straightforward but very much overlooked. There is a reason why guests need to RSVP before the wedding this is so the couple can estimate how much the wedding catering would cost. Much planning goes into how many people the couple will invite and they will be paying for every single guest attending which means, that if you could not attend their wedding, it is best to tell them you cannot so they can allocate the spot saved for you to someone else. Guests that RSVP months prior the wedding is a boon to the couple’s guesting preferences as it shows that they have enough courtesy to respond when invited. Invited guests that do not RSVP and fail to show up, however, are in bad taste.

2.)    DRESS ACCORDINGLY

Some invitations would explicitly state how their guests should be attired for the ceremony, however, there are also invitations that would make a subtle insinuation as to how their guests should be dressed (seashells and sand on the invitation suggests a casual ceremony whereas an embossed and embroidered one would mean a formal affair). The wedding reception may also be a great indication as to how a guest should be garbed (Ballrooms and function rooms require formal attires while garden weddings can be considered casual)

If you are still unsure how you should be clothed for the wedding, ask someone who is familiar to the wedding preparations such as the wedding coordinators or a member of the couple’s family.

3.)    DO SHOW UP TO THE CEREMONY

Some guests would skip the ceremony altogether and just show up to the reception. This is a big wedding guest faux pas as the ceremony is the most important part of the affair and the couple obviously wanted you to be a witness to their exchange of vows. Neglecting to show up to the ceremony and going straight to the reception would be doing the couple not only a discourtesy but a disservice as well. Be a considerate guest by being present in the ceremony and the reception as well.

4.)    DO SIT AT YOUR ASSIGNED TABLE

Do not make a fuss as to where you are seated. This has all been strategically planned by the bridge and groom as well as the coordinators. Generally, you would be seated with your family if you are coming as a bunch, otherwise, if you came alone then the couple might have you seated next to a stranger they want you to get acquainted with. Do not begrudge them this, smile, mingle and make friends.

5.)    DO BRING A GIFT

It is the least you can do to tell the couple that you were happy to have been invited to witness their wedding. Besides, if the bride and groom have obviously spent for you to be there, would it not be nice to reciprocate the gesture by giving them a simple token they can use for their life as a couple?

Though we have extensively discussed all that you should do as a wedding guest, there are also a certain number of don’ts that you should be aware of should you want to conduct yourself appropriately as a wedding guest which will be thoroughly discussed in another article. For now, this is the set of do’s you can acquaint yourself with as a wedding guest to make yourself worthy of that wedding invitation.